QUESTION OF THE DAY OR WEEK..
Ladies:
Would you let your Significant Other talk to a girl he slept with 2 years ago, but had no relationship with that person, other than friends?
Guys, same question.. except Vice Versa...
Why the question? Here's the story..
2 years ago, i was pregnant with my son. I wasn't happy, but it happened. at the time, Eli and I were going thru a difficult stage in our relationship cause of the pregnancy. So I decided to go to texas for about a month, to relax and get my shit together.. I told Eli that I would be back and we would work things out. Well, at the time i was in Texas, I decided what I wanted to do. So I came back and decided to be with Eli and see if we can work things out for the baby. A week after I got back from texas, he told me that he slept with someone, cause he was "confused".. so he decided to seek out his good friend and "seek comfort".. After he told me that I got pissed. I, too, was undecided what I wanted to do when I was pregnant, but I didn't "seek comfort" to anyone else.. So, I told him that since he did that and if we were gonna be together, I told him that I didn't want him to talk to her again. And he didn't, until about a month ago when I left him for a week, cause he wasn't doing jack shit but play games and only help out when I have to ask. I actually didn't found out about him talking to her again til about a week after I came back, last month.. The day i found out he was talking to her, he left his myspace profile (signed in) up on my laptop. I thought it was my myspace profile cause it was on one of my friend's profile, and i thought i left it up. So I clicked on "Sent Mail" hoping to see if my sister have read my messages, and found messages from the girl.. I thought to myself.. "I don't remember sending her any messages.." so I clicked on it, and found a conversation between Eli and Lisa about him hurting her feeling and him wondering about that night, "what if" .. so it pissed me off cause i told him I didn't want him talking to her, since he had sex with her while i was away to texas. I confronted him about that convo about a week later when someone called at 130am. I asked who it was, and he would only refer to it as "a friend".. He didn't say, 'HE, SHE, HIS, HER" just a friend. So I did my own research and found out it was that girl. Supposedly they were talking about "World of Warcraft" but whatever. So, I let that slide til the next few days and finally confronted him about it. I told him that I knew that he's been talking to her. I even showed him the conversation he had with her.. cause i forward them to my inbox. He was very hesitate. So that's basically the main reason why I ask the question.. I told him that it bothers me that he's talking to someone he had sex with but no relationship. Just a booty call, basically. Now if she was his exgirlfriend, that's fine... i'll be more than happy to talk to her and see what's up with her..
He then said, "Well I don't like you talking to Jimmy.."
That pissed me off, so i said back to him, "Jimmy and I will always have some sort of relationship because of victoria. He and I have a kid together, so you have no say-so about it!!"
He said, "Well Lisa is in the situation as you are about having a kid with someone else. She doesn't want her baby's father involve in their lives cause he's irresponsible.."
I said, "It's not my fucking problem she got knocked up by a loser! Sure, i got knocked up by a loser too, but at least he's helping out and helping me take care of vicky, so don't you dare ever compare me to her.."
He shut up after that. So, I told him how i felt about him talking to her and such, I told him that he can continue talking to her, but always know that it will bother me.
I need some feedback.. I've asked everyone, I talked on the phone, that question.. and they have given me some good advice and opinion.. now I need some more.. from my LJ friends..
Thanks..
Would you let your Significant Other talk to a girl he slept with 2 years ago, but had no relationship with that person, other than friends?
Guys, same question.. except Vice Versa...
Why the question? Here's the story..
2 years ago, i was pregnant with my son. I wasn't happy, but it happened. at the time, Eli and I were going thru a difficult stage in our relationship cause of the pregnancy. So I decided to go to texas for about a month, to relax and get my shit together.. I told Eli that I would be back and we would work things out. Well, at the time i was in Texas, I decided what I wanted to do. So I came back and decided to be with Eli and see if we can work things out for the baby. A week after I got back from texas, he told me that he slept with someone, cause he was "confused".. so he decided to seek out his good friend and "seek comfort".. After he told me that I got pissed. I, too, was undecided what I wanted to do when I was pregnant, but I didn't "seek comfort" to anyone else.. So, I told him that since he did that and if we were gonna be together, I told him that I didn't want him to talk to her again. And he didn't, until about a month ago when I left him for a week, cause he wasn't doing jack shit but play games and only help out when I have to ask. I actually didn't found out about him talking to her again til about a week after I came back, last month.. The day i found out he was talking to her, he left his myspace profile (signed in) up on my laptop. I thought it was my myspace profile cause it was on one of my friend's profile, and i thought i left it up. So I clicked on "Sent Mail" hoping to see if my sister have read my messages, and found messages from the girl.. I thought to myself.. "I don't remember sending her any messages.." so I clicked on it, and found a conversation between Eli and Lisa about him hurting her feeling and him wondering about that night, "what if" .. so it pissed me off cause i told him I didn't want him talking to her, since he had sex with her while i was away to texas. I confronted him about that convo about a week later when someone called at 130am. I asked who it was, and he would only refer to it as "a friend".. He didn't say, 'HE, SHE, HIS, HER" just a friend. So I did my own research and found out it was that girl. Supposedly they were talking about "World of Warcraft" but whatever. So, I let that slide til the next few days and finally confronted him about it. I told him that I knew that he's been talking to her. I even showed him the conversation he had with her.. cause i forward them to my inbox. He was very hesitate. So that's basically the main reason why I ask the question.. I told him that it bothers me that he's talking to someone he had sex with but no relationship. Just a booty call, basically. Now if she was his exgirlfriend, that's fine... i'll be more than happy to talk to her and see what's up with her..
He then said, "Well I don't like you talking to Jimmy.."
That pissed me off, so i said back to him, "Jimmy and I will always have some sort of relationship because of victoria. He and I have a kid together, so you have no say-so about it!!"
He said, "Well Lisa is in the situation as you are about having a kid with someone else. She doesn't want her baby's father involve in their lives cause he's irresponsible.."
I said, "It's not my fucking problem she got knocked up by a loser! Sure, i got knocked up by a loser too, but at least he's helping out and helping me take care of vicky, so don't you dare ever compare me to her.."
He shut up after that. So, I told him how i felt about him talking to her and such, I told him that he can continue talking to her, but always know that it will bother me.
I need some feedback.. I've asked everyone, I talked on the phone, that question.. and they have given me some good advice and opinion.. now I need some more.. from my LJ friends..
Thanks..