The True Definition of Emo
All of us, in some point in our lives, have petty moments. It can range from being highly upset over a video game, to ending a friendship because you disagreed on music. Some of us even experience these petty moments every day of our life. And despite how trivial the matter is, we engage our problem (or in this case opponent) head-on and full force, with no intention of backing down regardless of how stupid we display ourselves.
Of course, pride is to blame for all of this. Every human being has a sense of pride, whether it be big or small. Every now and again something or someone may bruise our poor egos and we lose it. But what is amazing is that petty moments, the small problems in our lives, do as much bruising to our egos as the big problems. Unbelievable? Perhaps.
We allow our egos to grow every single day. We may not let its size affect us, but we make the mistake of ignoring it - neglecting to maintain it and keep it under control as we told ourselves we would. And as our pride - our egos - continue to develop, we endanger ourselves more and more without realizing it. Until that something, or someone jabs it with words or actions. By now our egos are big kids with an uncontrollable temper. We lose it, no matter the pettiness of the situation.
We lose our sense of rationality during this stage of hurt or rage. We'll say things that we certainly don't mean, do things that we don't mean to do. When it's all over, we'll regret it at the end, and usually it's far too late to fix things up and make it the way it used to be. I have experienced this far too many times, and I am determined to never allow it to happen again.
I watch people online and offline, arguing and fighting over the most trivial things and it sickens me. So what if he couldn't make it to the roleplay session? So what if your boyfriend wants to watch a different channel that you do? Is it worth ending a friendship over? Is it worth ending a supposedly loving relationship over? We have allowed our sense pride revert us back to the infant stages; crying over spilled milk. Why are we so angsty, and why are we so determined to control everything?
A man breaks up with his girlfriend, and his best friend decides to date his ex-girlfriend. Should the man become upset with his best friend? He doesn't own his ex. He doesn't want her anymore. Perhaps his ex-girlfriend and best friend may find happiness together. Should the man become jealous that they're doing something that he couldn't? All of my female and male friends have this mentality, and it's ridiculous. Three good friends that I have are now estranged due to something like this. Nikki hates Sarah and her ex-boyfriend for dating, when she obviously didn't want him anymore. What kind of selfishness is this?!
And when it comes to the internet, I have seen people argue over things such as the date of when a song was released, the number of sequels a specific movie had, or even roleplay. People's egos become so bruised to the point where they'll even resort to name calling instead of getting their point across, or just simply blowing up because someone disagreed. Someone else chimes in, and we begin to feel attacked. We become those teenagers that we tease; children who believe that they're the only ones that are right, and that the world is working against them. And let us not forget, it's still internet issues that are tearing these individuals apart.
Allowing your pride to govern your thoughts and actions is what it really means to be "Emo." Not music, your style of dress, or your damn glasses.
Good night, and Merry Christmas.
Of course, pride is to blame for all of this. Every human being has a sense of pride, whether it be big or small. Every now and again something or someone may bruise our poor egos and we lose it. But what is amazing is that petty moments, the small problems in our lives, do as much bruising to our egos as the big problems. Unbelievable? Perhaps.
We allow our egos to grow every single day. We may not let its size affect us, but we make the mistake of ignoring it - neglecting to maintain it and keep it under control as we told ourselves we would. And as our pride - our egos - continue to develop, we endanger ourselves more and more without realizing it. Until that something, or someone jabs it with words or actions. By now our egos are big kids with an uncontrollable temper. We lose it, no matter the pettiness of the situation.
We lose our sense of rationality during this stage of hurt or rage. We'll say things that we certainly don't mean, do things that we don't mean to do. When it's all over, we'll regret it at the end, and usually it's far too late to fix things up and make it the way it used to be. I have experienced this far too many times, and I am determined to never allow it to happen again.
I watch people online and offline, arguing and fighting over the most trivial things and it sickens me. So what if he couldn't make it to the roleplay session? So what if your boyfriend wants to watch a different channel that you do? Is it worth ending a friendship over? Is it worth ending a supposedly loving relationship over? We have allowed our sense pride revert us back to the infant stages; crying over spilled milk. Why are we so angsty, and why are we so determined to control everything?
A man breaks up with his girlfriend, and his best friend decides to date his ex-girlfriend. Should the man become upset with his best friend? He doesn't own his ex. He doesn't want her anymore. Perhaps his ex-girlfriend and best friend may find happiness together. Should the man become jealous that they're doing something that he couldn't? All of my female and male friends have this mentality, and it's ridiculous. Three good friends that I have are now estranged due to something like this. Nikki hates Sarah and her ex-boyfriend for dating, when she obviously didn't want him anymore. What kind of selfishness is this?!
And when it comes to the internet, I have seen people argue over things such as the date of when a song was released, the number of sequels a specific movie had, or even roleplay. People's egos become so bruised to the point where they'll even resort to name calling instead of getting their point across, or just simply blowing up because someone disagreed. Someone else chimes in, and we begin to feel attacked. We become those teenagers that we tease; children who believe that they're the only ones that are right, and that the world is working against them. And let us not forget, it's still internet issues that are tearing these individuals apart.
Allowing your pride to govern your thoughts and actions is what it really means to be "Emo." Not music, your style of dress, or your damn glasses.
Good night, and Merry Christmas.