Friends with benefits.
I know all too well about this. It's not for the faint of heart that's for fuckin' sure. There are pros and cons to this. I don't know what is even possessing me to write this. I just feel inspired to. Especially since I've dealt with it for a couple of years already. So without further ado, here's the pros:
*It's good if you just want sex with someone with no strings attached.
*If you want to just hang out with them play videogames, watch movies, go to the movies etc- without commitment involved. You feel a bit frisky, and bam you can fuck, no consequences.
*It is freedom. One of the beauties of being single, is you can fuck who ever, whenever and not worry about shit. Cum and go as you please, pun intended. And again, you have no commitment to the friend in question, so there is no guilt.
*No drama. If you both agree and both actually feel the SAME, you don't have to deal with the where have you been, who were you with scenario. No nagging.
Now, this will only work if BOTH parties feel the same.
There is risk of attatchment, and it can end up being a very, verrry painful experience. Believe me, I know. So this leads me to the cons:
*It's when the Line begins to blur that a problem ensues. Ofcourse naturally when friends have a sexual relationship, a line is already crossed. But there are times when party A starts to have emotional feelings for party B. That is a big fucking train wreck.
*one person wants to become more than friends and strings are attatched, while the other wants to continue being single and wants no relationship. (There's nothing worse than falling for someone who doesn't fall back.)
*Jealousy. Oh yes. Especially in this case it rears its ugly head. And it is nasty. Person A becomes suspicous of every girl/boy that person B comes in contact with. Questions arise such as "will they fuck them too?" "would they want a relationship with them instead?". And all other kinds of things.
*Resentment can form and person A becomes bitter, frustrated that Person B doesn't feel the same.
*It can also be a disaster if not all conditions are clear. What I mean is, if the people involved don't communicate the terms of their relationship. I'm trying to explain this the best way I can. I can use myself as an example, in my case, it just happened. We didn't discuss anything. Just poof. Then again, we were never STRICTLY friends from the fucking beginning. And some people don't understand that if its not said from the get go, it can be confusing. Expecially if you ALREADY had feelings for the person. I don't recommend getting into a sexual relationship with a friend if feelings are involved because you go in with strings already attatched. In turn leaving you with a broken heart. People say oh well we are just friends. But again, once sex is involved or any type of sexual activity that line is crossed and it becomes something else. It becomes more intimate, obviously.
*It's good if you just want sex with someone with no strings attached.
*If you want to just hang out with them play videogames, watch movies, go to the movies etc- without commitment involved. You feel a bit frisky, and bam you can fuck, no consequences.
*It is freedom. One of the beauties of being single, is you can fuck who ever, whenever and not worry about shit. Cum and go as you please, pun intended. And again, you have no commitment to the friend in question, so there is no guilt.
*No drama. If you both agree and both actually feel the SAME, you don't have to deal with the where have you been, who were you with scenario. No nagging.
Now, this will only work if BOTH parties feel the same.
There is risk of attatchment, and it can end up being a very, verrry painful experience. Believe me, I know. So this leads me to the cons:
*It's when the Line begins to blur that a problem ensues. Ofcourse naturally when friends have a sexual relationship, a line is already crossed. But there are times when party A starts to have emotional feelings for party B. That is a big fucking train wreck.
*one person wants to become more than friends and strings are attatched, while the other wants to continue being single and wants no relationship. (There's nothing worse than falling for someone who doesn't fall back.)
*Jealousy. Oh yes. Especially in this case it rears its ugly head. And it is nasty. Person A becomes suspicous of every girl/boy that person B comes in contact with. Questions arise such as "will they fuck them too?" "would they want a relationship with them instead?". And all other kinds of things.
*Resentment can form and person A becomes bitter, frustrated that Person B doesn't feel the same.
*It can also be a disaster if not all conditions are clear. What I mean is, if the people involved don't communicate the terms of their relationship. I'm trying to explain this the best way I can. I can use myself as an example, in my case, it just happened. We didn't discuss anything. Just poof. Then again, we were never STRICTLY friends from the fucking beginning. And some people don't understand that if its not said from the get go, it can be confusing. Expecially if you ALREADY had feelings for the person. I don't recommend getting into a sexual relationship with a friend if feelings are involved because you go in with strings already attatched. In turn leaving you with a broken heart. People say oh well we are just friends. But again, once sex is involved or any type of sexual activity that line is crossed and it becomes something else. It becomes more intimate, obviously.