GESALTS
gestalt psycologist believe...
a person is like a pie, and when some one close to them dies they lose a piece of their pie. therefore leaving them incomplete. A person can only be complete once again when the feel they have resolved the loss of that loved one...IF. they never resolve it that person will NEVER be the same again
IF, the person resolves it they will return to there state of being before the death or loss..
i lost my dad when i was in 6th grade. after that i gained weight, fought wiht my mom, lied alot, hated myself and so on. I quit the lying, and got help for it. i tried to lose the weight and carry on. but i never felt the same, there was alot of hatred built up. i was missing something. I was missing a companion. i was my dad's best friend i think, we were best friends. anyone who knows me knows that. when i met ben he whistled, my dad whistled non stop. he said it filled awkward moments for him, and kept him company in hotels. Ben had all the traits i hadn't seen in a long time. now 2 years later while sitting in that psyc class i realized, i filled hte pie piece. I am back where i started, im gullable as shit, i cook all the time again, i clean, i lost the wieght, im active. It all came back. and i must say that i know that it was a journey and that is how i will always look at it. i am not ashamed of it at all. not one bit.
look at those CUUUURLS hahha