A simple out look...(after reading Sean's last post)
It’s amazing that as a species we are all genetically the same, but in reality we are as different from each other as snowflakes. One person’s pleasure is another ones pain. Some choose to get buy with their pain whether it be physical or emotional, but never do anything about it; they ignore it completely and never learn. Some choose to inflict pain on others in the hopes that it will elevate their own, but in the end all they accomplish is suffering their pain alone because they have rejected anything that could really help them. Thankfully there are a few rare souls that choose to face it and do something about it rather then just drift by until the pain they carry consumes them. I believe that pain makes us who we are as individuals.
If we never felt the fire burn us for the first time, we would continue to be burned until there was nothing left. If some one in the past never saw how the flame can disfigure the body, they may never have sought a way to heal it. Yes it does seem unfair that some have to suffer so that the whole progresses, but life is never fair. If we did not feel the pain of the fire, then how could be appreciate the coolness of the water. Emotional pain can give the same type of learning experience; unfortunately it can not be healed by others for no one can truly see the scars beneath the surface but yourself, so how can some one else heal them? Only having experienced it themselves they can offer a shoulder or advice.
I have suffered much in my life both physically and emotionally the same as everyone else in the world. Some things are still a constant struggle. Many people have suffered some of the same fates as me, and some dealt with it well, some did not. Many in my position would have just drifted through life not really living and letting the same experiences happen to them over and over because they felt they couldn’t change them. Some would inflict the pain they felt on someone else hoping to transfer their pain on them. I spent 3 years of my life cowering in a corner because I was afraid to face the consequences of dealing with my ex. Finally I realized I wasn’t really living. I faced my fear and finally broke free from it. Sure I had help moving my physical baggage, but in the end I had to deal with the emotional baggage on my own. It was no one else’s burden to carry; I did not want to force it on others. I shared with those willing to listen, in the hopes that through sharing it with those that loved me I would be able to work it out without feeling alone in it. It worked. After several more years of being freed I have finally come to terms with that pain and have vanquished it. Now I must move onto the next pain and deal with that, and so on and so forth until the day I die. Do I wish that I could go back in time and erase the 3 years I spent in the corner, surely not, because with out the emotional struggle then I would not be who I am today, and I’m very happy with who I have become. With out my past how can I have a future? If I had never felt the pain of Steve’s fists then how would I have learned to appreciate the loving caress of Ruben’s hands? If I didn’t feel worthlessness, how would I know that I now felt self-worth?
Pain is a FORTUNATE part of life. It makes us who we are physically and emotionally. It teaches us not to touch the fire but admire it for its beauty from a distance. It binds us to the people we love, and separates us from those who would do us permanent harm. With out pain we would not have life.
If we never felt the fire burn us for the first time, we would continue to be burned until there was nothing left. If some one in the past never saw how the flame can disfigure the body, they may never have sought a way to heal it. Yes it does seem unfair that some have to suffer so that the whole progresses, but life is never fair. If we did not feel the pain of the fire, then how could be appreciate the coolness of the water. Emotional pain can give the same type of learning experience; unfortunately it can not be healed by others for no one can truly see the scars beneath the surface but yourself, so how can some one else heal them? Only having experienced it themselves they can offer a shoulder or advice.
I have suffered much in my life both physically and emotionally the same as everyone else in the world. Some things are still a constant struggle. Many people have suffered some of the same fates as me, and some dealt with it well, some did not. Many in my position would have just drifted through life not really living and letting the same experiences happen to them over and over because they felt they couldn’t change them. Some would inflict the pain they felt on someone else hoping to transfer their pain on them. I spent 3 years of my life cowering in a corner because I was afraid to face the consequences of dealing with my ex. Finally I realized I wasn’t really living. I faced my fear and finally broke free from it. Sure I had help moving my physical baggage, but in the end I had to deal with the emotional baggage on my own. It was no one else’s burden to carry; I did not want to force it on others. I shared with those willing to listen, in the hopes that through sharing it with those that loved me I would be able to work it out without feeling alone in it. It worked. After several more years of being freed I have finally come to terms with that pain and have vanquished it. Now I must move onto the next pain and deal with that, and so on and so forth until the day I die. Do I wish that I could go back in time and erase the 3 years I spent in the corner, surely not, because with out the emotional struggle then I would not be who I am today, and I’m very happy with who I have become. With out my past how can I have a future? If I had never felt the pain of Steve’s fists then how would I have learned to appreciate the loving caress of Ruben’s hands? If I didn’t feel worthlessness, how would I know that I now felt self-worth?
Pain is a FORTUNATE part of life. It makes us who we are physically and emotionally. It teaches us not to touch the fire but admire it for its beauty from a distance. It binds us to the people we love, and separates us from those who would do us permanent harm. With out pain we would not have life.