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So I tried to not think about it like I wanted and it worked. I totally got over the whole thing before, unfortunately, talking to him. My yesterday was super cool. I spent 4 hours in the library studying and spent the last 20-30 min totally day dreaming about him. Writing cute little love poems and such. Listening to John Legend on my phone and
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-wrong. the best thing to do is to let your feelings be known. understanding how the other person feels and why allows you two to grow in your relationship.
"WOuldn't that be better than talking about all of this and then feeling awkward from now on"
-NOPE. if you don't allow yourself to express your thoughts freely, you'll never know his reactions and his true thoughts. this robs the two of you from further understanding each other, leaving you both in a false state of bliss. if the intention is to build together, you have to know these things about each other. otherwise, you're really not getting anywhere as a team and you won't be able to handle the bigger issues in life together.
"Well maybe not happy but possibly better off"
-possibly, but you'll never know if it's not discussed with him.
"I'm hurt that my deepest feelings, that i had the hardest time telling him in the first place were disregarded. Maybe I deserve it."
-No. YOU DO NOT DESERVE IT. but, you did need to know that's what his reaction would be. he also needs to know that you are hurt. perhaps he really didn't know how to respond, so he postponed it. whatever the case, you don't deserve hurt for expressing yourself to your loved one. what you deserve is the opportunity to be honest and to receive honesty.
***You are not silly. You feel how you feel and you need to know that your feelings are valid. If someone tries to marginalze those, you should tell them to "Fall Off".
peace
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