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[glockgal]

I'm Sorry
I've felt there are two categories of 'I'm sorry' which many people (including me!) have used:

TYPE 1: the true apology, where the apologist is genuinely interested in changing their actions and/or perspectives. They are generally willing to listen, to learn, to progress, to practice further conscientious behaviour.

TYPE 2: the false

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[_inbetween_]

Heheheh, well, just *currently* I'd say, or lately, and the definitions for 1+2 fitted all the arguments.

Yeah, online tone might only be smileys but even those, naive-me keeps being taught, are used pointedly sarcastically so argh.

I never had that, it tends to be me. When I used to chat, a few years ago, either mbf or I said it too much, and then this or another friend shouted "stop saying sorry" but she said something else constantly, so as you said it was partly insecurity - OMG HAHAHA I MIXED UP THE WORDS! AAAAAARGH I MISREAD IT AS insincere ARGH yes of course it is insecure. And a defense mechanism that can get too ingrained. And I know people who say it passive-aggressively- much like the sneering intended-to-be-known-as-fake one, but not the same. So having known people who do it for not very nice reason might influence how one reacts to innocuous overly frequent sorries. I do know some who did it that way! And ... I honestly want to apologise again for rambling so uninterestingly, again. I genuinely am sorry, and it's not passive-aggressive or fake, just meant to indicate I realise all this could have been left unsaid without any loss *sob ggggg*

[glockgal]

Haaaa yeah emoticons can be so passive-aggressive! It's hard to trust them when you're embroiled in a debate, that's for sure.

OMG NOW TYPE 3 IS NOT INSINCERE, GOOD GRACIOUS. I don't think I could call my BFF my BFF if I thought her apologies were insincere. I'd be her enemy. I don't want to be her enemy. Neither do I want her to be a victim to any perceived evil I might have caused her. O.o