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Mar 18, 2010 08:43

I'm Sorry
I've felt there are two categories of 'I'm sorry' which many people (including me!) have used:

TYPE 1: the true apology, where the apologist is genuinely interested in changing their actions and/or perspectives. They are generally willing to listen, to learn, to progress, to practice further conscientious behaviour.

TYPE 2: the false ( Read more... )

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glockgal March 18 2010, 17:24:58 UTC
*hee* I started out warning her that every time she would say off-handed (or extremely guarded) apologies, I'd point it out. But I also wanted to try and figure out why it annoyed me in the first place, particularly if I understood why she was doing it, y'know? I wanted to explain to her how it felt from my side, instead of just giving her yet another reason to feel bad about herself (ie, constantly apologizing) and further into her depression. It's awesome that, with the help of your buddies, you were able to see the pattern on your own!

You're sorry? For WHAT? That it's raining?

AHAHAH this is, I find, very Canadian as well. In a similar vein - Someone will push me in a crowd and I'll immediately say "I'm sorry!" as if I should be apologetic for, um, being there. I'm trying to stop the instinctive 'don't wanna rock the boat' style of apologies, myself.

Regarding your story - I feel this apologies imply that the apologizer doesn't know what to say and neither do they want to carry on the conversation. Or, perhaps they generally have a pessimist outlook? So all they hear in "Oh, fine. Got a little wet in the rain, but otherwise everythings great!" is more 'Everything would have been fine, but the rain RUINED EVERYTHING'. :D

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