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My conversation with magid convinced me I should post this to LJ (not only to Tribe}, because there are people on my f-list that I feel close to but have yet to meet. Here is the cut and past:
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As most of you know, Erica and I have parted ways and she's looking for a new place to live. This has been very drama-free, amicable and relatively smooth. We're still the best of friends, still cuddle, and still call each other silly names and give each other wedgies. Well, maybe not the wedgie part, but the rest is quite true.
Once she leaves, she can spread her wings and I can spread mine; we'll be there for each other if a wing breaks, even if not quite the same way as before. If anything, it'll be healthier.
The sadness over the breakup phase is behind us, joy is ahead.
I've often said that if I could do my life all over again, I would do so in a heartbeat; but I must say that this chapter was one that I would probably keep mostly intact, because there was a lot of richness, love, growth, and caring in this relationship. We've had some adventures, some misadventures, some dizzying ups and depressing downs - just like everyone else. But there was also magic, and wonder, and growth. I came out of it a better person, and nearing the New Year I'm filled with gratitude for 4-1/2 amazing years.
If you invite one of us, you can invite the other; there is really nothing negative between us - in fact we're better friends now, perhaps, than we've been in some time. It's good to know that It's Time, to know when it's healthy to move on, disengage the crutch, spread the wings without bumping the other, and let the joy in. I can't wait to meet her next boyfriend or girlfriend. Or to meet mine, for that matter :)
Watch out world, we're coming. Separately this time, but with zest and joie de vivre that is being renewed in both of us. And, boys and girls, I will now try to sleep with ALL of you... No, no! I'm just being silly. ;)
Anyway.
I love her, as I love all of you who are reading it. Happy New Year to you all, and may we all blossom and manifest the best in us.
xoxoxo
*The picture was taken at Burning Man at the end of this summer; I blurred her face because I haven't asked her permission to use her picture. I'll repost the image when she OK's it.