My Final Words On The Whole Damn Thing
Yes, a shockingly public post...
First, I'm sorry to Dutchess for potentially ruining our friendship to try to help out another friend. Please forgive me, really, I am sorry.
Next, some people have the ability to own up to their own actions, accept responsibility for what they do, or don't do. Some people don't. Those that don't, it's like trying to beat a dead horse to get them to actually stop the lies and face the truth. I dealt with this with Heather before, and it almost ruined my life as I knew it. I'm not about to do it again for anyone else. Being told what I'm allowed to do and not allowed to do, in order for someone to try to snare their infatuation object is not gonna fly with me anymore. Whether it's bluntly said, or expressly implied, it is what it is. I did and/or said things to try to help this person out, with her knowing full well the whole time the reasons why I was doing or saying it. Now it gets taken out of context and thrown back in my face, to try to make herself look better in a situation where she screwed herself over.
Family has come to my defense, as one would expect. I have neither asked them to defend me, or not to. It's up to them, they're all big enough to make their own choices and say whatever they please. Free will is a gift God gave us all... who am I to tell someone they can't use it? Right? However, this person needs to be warned that jumping into a confrontation with them when they are defending family is not the brightest thing to do.
It was said that they were never asked for their side... I have since asked, even though I have already made my choices, and am comfortable with them. I just don't want it said that she was never able to give her side. Fair is fair... she said her reasons are valid, I admit I am curious...
With that said, I am now done. Period, I will say no more. I make my choices for my own reasons, I'm the only one that has to be happy with them.
First, I'm sorry to Dutchess for potentially ruining our friendship to try to help out another friend. Please forgive me, really, I am sorry.
Next, some people have the ability to own up to their own actions, accept responsibility for what they do, or don't do. Some people don't. Those that don't, it's like trying to beat a dead horse to get them to actually stop the lies and face the truth. I dealt with this with Heather before, and it almost ruined my life as I knew it. I'm not about to do it again for anyone else. Being told what I'm allowed to do and not allowed to do, in order for someone to try to snare their infatuation object is not gonna fly with me anymore. Whether it's bluntly said, or expressly implied, it is what it is. I did and/or said things to try to help this person out, with her knowing full well the whole time the reasons why I was doing or saying it. Now it gets taken out of context and thrown back in my face, to try to make herself look better in a situation where she screwed herself over.
Family has come to my defense, as one would expect. I have neither asked them to defend me, or not to. It's up to them, they're all big enough to make their own choices and say whatever they please. Free will is a gift God gave us all... who am I to tell someone they can't use it? Right? However, this person needs to be warned that jumping into a confrontation with them when they are defending family is not the brightest thing to do.
It was said that they were never asked for their side... I have since asked, even though I have already made my choices, and am comfortable with them. I just don't want it said that she was never able to give her side. Fair is fair... she said her reasons are valid, I admit I am curious...
With that said, I am now done. Period, I will say no more. I make my choices for my own reasons, I'm the only one that has to be happy with them.