Things I have learned recently.

[gleckia]

Procrastination is bad. I had forgotten to sign up for choir this session. Luckily, Jeanne (choir director) told me to talk to the director of the community ed office because they are letting returnees in even though the class is full. They set the class size at 40 people, and there are eight people on the waiting list. The problem/good thing

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[gleckia]

I agree. I think the choices that a woman makes are her own to make.

A 13-yr old is not a woman, no matter how grown-up she looks in her clothes and make-up.

18 is good age to make certain choices. I also acknowledge that my daughters will make their own choices of a more adult nature and for good or ill, some of them will be while they are still "kids".

I would much rather my daughters stayed away from some activities of a more adult nature until they are legally adults. However, if they don't, I feel they need to be informed on how to make the best decisions possible.

[onyxspydyr]

Clarify, please... is it Mystrycat who has the "Miss September" jewelry or the pole dancer in training who is her neighbor?
*shudders at the thought

[gleckia]

Sorry if I wasn't clear enough. The pole-dancer-in-training has the September birthday and the necklace. Mystrycat knows that neither you nor her father would let that piece of jewelry into her jewelery box.

I did have a judgemental moment though. When Mystrycat was looking for earrings for the p-d-i-t, she (Mystrycat) kept passing up the smaller versions of the playboy jewelery. She said that the p-d-i-t only likes the large hoop style earrings. I thought of the p-d-i-t in her tight tanks and her "short shorts" with the thong underwear showing and said, "Yeah, I suppose they (the smaller earrings) aren't trashy enough." I did apologize to Mystrycat for insulting her friend. We ended up with a black velvet bunny shaped pillow.

[gleckia]

I apologize for being snarky. I wish the young neighbor girl in question simply dressed like a young girl. She is not my neighbor, nor even my own daughter's friend.

I do worry that she (the neighbor girl) will find herself pushed or lured into situations with non-favorable consequences. I worry that a 13 yr. old might not be able to make responsible choices when those situations arise.

I do not worry overly much about her influence on Mystrycat since it is obvious that Mystrycat has got this girl's number. I still worry a little though. Mystrycat has a stubborn streak (I blame her parents);-0

[onyxspydyr]

Stubborn? I can't IMAGINE where she gets THAT from...

PDIT's mother cites the MRS degree as the only real reason for going to college. And one had better be sure to snag "a filthy rich" one. Because, yeah, that worked out so well for Mom...*cough

IF PDIT makes it through HS at all, I'll be surprised. If she makes it through without becoming a mommy, I'll be shocked.

And don't worry about disparaging comments and the PDIT. I've made them about her IN FRONT OF her. She's never really made an effort to be at all nice to me and has been outright snarky to me a couple of times (and good LORD you should hear how she talks to HER mother...)

Bah... as the new "My Chemical Romance" song says... "Teenagers scare the living SHIT out of me...."

[cinda29]

I don't think I would be cool with the Playboy Bunny theme either. Taking care of my niece as she grew up I have surprised myself many times with how conservative I have been when it comes to her, like when she got the tongue stud, sigh!

[gleckia]

It is so hard when you have to look in the mirror and judge whether or not you could handle your kids being the same way you were at their age.

It's amazing though that I can look at other people I know and say, "cool piercings" and the idea of my child having them freaks me out.

Another sign of becoming parental...My husband used to love to sit and people watch and glance appreciatively at the 18-25 yr old women. Now our eldest is developing her own grown-up body, all he can think is, "Gods, They are all somebody's daughter!"

[sageincave]

I have never understood the appeal that the playboy bunny has for some women. I mean, it's not even pretty!

[gleckia]

me either.

[anjilak]

Although I don't have a daughter, I am VERY conservative when raising my child. I shake my head at parents try to raise their children as adults instead of children..

[gleckia]

I hear you!!!