Wow I'm an angry person
Since my last post I'm feeling a little better. I feel ashamed of my last post at least. Things can't be that bad can they? I'm not too sure anymore. For some reason I just don't feel right in my skin in certain situations. I know that because people have started finding me kinda...intimidating. When you look at me you don't see a happy guy,
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I'm only mentioning this because...well, sometimes you run into people who feel, or at least felt at some point, like you do, but you don't know it. I'm saying I've been there, but I've found my peace, and you will too.
Forgive me for speculating, I don't intend to make false suppositions, but since your situation sounds similar to mine, I'll try to relate. You probably have a lot of anxiety, especially in social situations, and feel a lot of pressure and tention. Not to mention, I suspect, loneliness, both for lack of a woman and because no one else understands.
First off, never alienate yourself; not being able to relate or not allowing yourself to relate is the ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can do to yourself, and I'm very serious about that. That was my single largest mistake. Even if you're correct in assuming no one understands (which is never true, by the way) then all you're doing is destroying your own hope, which has a massive subconcious effect on your will for improvement. Never allow yourself to believe that.
Second, when you feel the pressure building, do something to break the tension. Me, I just started doing clown shit, just being ridiculous so that others would just laugh and that would take care of it. If I'm around my friends, then they don't care if I make an ass of myself and all is well; if I'm around a lot of people I don't know, then well, who cares what they think of me anyway, and if they don't laugh, well I find myself enjoying the "What the fuck" looks on their faces. Besides, I probably won't be seeing much of them anyway, so screw them.
Anyway, making others laugh is an IMMEDIATE confidence booster, and really, since people are always ready to laugh, it doesn't take much to make them break a smile. Not to mention that, besides making others laugh, if you can make YOURSELF laugh, then you'll just be happier in general. And women love a man who can make them smile and laugh, and who's not afraid to embarass himself.
Look guy, you've always seemed like a good dude to me, which is the reason I'm saying all this. And you seem like you're starting to get some things figured out; it always begins with people analyzing their own lives and deciding what about it makes them unhappy. Unfortunately, that's also where most people stop. Continue to the next step, which is this: If something makes you unhappy, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! A house will not repair itself, nor will anyone else do it for you, if it belongs to you. Figure out what needs changing, and change it. Don't be one of those people who lets it happen to themselves.
And just some advice in general: Don't expect too much out of life, it is what you make it after all. I know that sounds cliched, but there's a reason why people say so much. Ride the waves, don't fight the current too much, but don't just give in either; you won't like your destination. Me, my situation is not any different than it was when I was miserable. The only difference is my mind frame, and my attitude towards it all. Why be miserable if you don't have to be?
You'll get it figured out man. Sorry about the length.
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