monkey's paw
I figured I should post on what happened with all the wedding planning.
It's been such a mess, but we've finally gotten something sorted out. It all started with us wanting a wedding in Miami. I thought it was the best idea, since Jude had family down there, and all of her friends, and I figured weddings should cater to the bride anyway, so there you go.
Ever since we've gotten engaged, the question has been, "have you picked a date yet?" That question gets really old after the hundredth time. The answer had been "no, we're going to Miami over Thanksgiving to pick out a venue, we'll pick a date based on when the venue we pick is available." So we head to Miami the week of Thanksgiving - me, Jude, and my parents, as they wanted to scout out rehearsal dinner locations. We looked at all kinds of places, ran all around Miami, and found some good possibilities. In the end, we really liked the Museum of Science; it was basic, but there was a lot you could do with it. Then on Saturday, Jude's parents came out with us, and her mom didn't like the Museum of Science. She liked the Coral Gables Women's Club, which was also very nice. So we decided on that one.
I called them up the next week to book the place, and they said you had to sign a contract in person and bring the down payment. I told them this would be a problem, as I wasn't in Miami; they still stuck to the in person contract. This kind of threw a wrench in the plans. At some point the next day or so, Jude's mom called and said she wanted to have the wedding in El Salvador, so a lot of her extended family down there could be at the wedding. To sweeten the deal, she offered to let us have a small civil ceremony immediately, and just do the "real" wedding in El Salvador.
Now, eloping (with the family there) had always been what I said I wanted. I'm not a fan of big weddings, with my crazy head, I don't do well. Plus the planning had been super stressful so far, and I was ready to be done with it. Now I was getting just what I wanted...and I was unsure. Her parents work odd hours, so the best time for them to come up would be on a Wednesday, December 16th. We started the wheels in motion, but something was just stuck in the back of my head about it. After about a day or so of planning, I called off the small ceremony, and just said we'd have the El Salvador wedding.
It seems as if even though I really wanted to get married as quickly as possible to Jude, there's some things I still wanted to make it special. If we got married immediately, we'd delay the honeymoon, and it would be pretty much life as normal going forward. I love this girl so much, I don't want my life to go on as normal when we get married. I want a big event to mark the changes in our life. I want to leave the wedding, and have a vacation to celebrate the beginning of our life together. Funny, I never really thought that until it came up.
So, now the plan is this: we're getting married (for the one and only time) in El Salvador on May 22, 2010. We'll have a reception in Atlanta when we get back from the honeymoon, something simple, like a grill out at my parents house or something. I'm excited; it's going to be unlike any other wedding that I know of. And that's cool with me - Jude and I are definitely unlike any other couple that I know of. :)
It's been such a mess, but we've finally gotten something sorted out. It all started with us wanting a wedding in Miami. I thought it was the best idea, since Jude had family down there, and all of her friends, and I figured weddings should cater to the bride anyway, so there you go.
Ever since we've gotten engaged, the question has been, "have you picked a date yet?" That question gets really old after the hundredth time. The answer had been "no, we're going to Miami over Thanksgiving to pick out a venue, we'll pick a date based on when the venue we pick is available." So we head to Miami the week of Thanksgiving - me, Jude, and my parents, as they wanted to scout out rehearsal dinner locations. We looked at all kinds of places, ran all around Miami, and found some good possibilities. In the end, we really liked the Museum of Science; it was basic, but there was a lot you could do with it. Then on Saturday, Jude's parents came out with us, and her mom didn't like the Museum of Science. She liked the Coral Gables Women's Club, which was also very nice. So we decided on that one.
I called them up the next week to book the place, and they said you had to sign a contract in person and bring the down payment. I told them this would be a problem, as I wasn't in Miami; they still stuck to the in person contract. This kind of threw a wrench in the plans. At some point the next day or so, Jude's mom called and said she wanted to have the wedding in El Salvador, so a lot of her extended family down there could be at the wedding. To sweeten the deal, she offered to let us have a small civil ceremony immediately, and just do the "real" wedding in El Salvador.
Now, eloping (with the family there) had always been what I said I wanted. I'm not a fan of big weddings, with my crazy head, I don't do well. Plus the planning had been super stressful so far, and I was ready to be done with it. Now I was getting just what I wanted...and I was unsure. Her parents work odd hours, so the best time for them to come up would be on a Wednesday, December 16th. We started the wheels in motion, but something was just stuck in the back of my head about it. After about a day or so of planning, I called off the small ceremony, and just said we'd have the El Salvador wedding.
It seems as if even though I really wanted to get married as quickly as possible to Jude, there's some things I still wanted to make it special. If we got married immediately, we'd delay the honeymoon, and it would be pretty much life as normal going forward. I love this girl so much, I don't want my life to go on as normal when we get married. I want a big event to mark the changes in our life. I want to leave the wedding, and have a vacation to celebrate the beginning of our life together. Funny, I never really thought that until it came up.
So, now the plan is this: we're getting married (for the one and only time) in El Salvador on May 22, 2010. We'll have a reception in Atlanta when we get back from the honeymoon, something simple, like a grill out at my parents house or something. I'm excited; it's going to be unlike any other wedding that I know of. And that's cool with me - Jude and I are definitely unlike any other couple that I know of. :)