How do you deal with betrayal?

[giwu]

I am now waiting for my dog to return home and I am stuck with very little to do.  I got to thinking about a couple of things and this ended up being a lot longer than what I thought it would be.  Sorry, no smut!

So, a few months ago I was in for a routine follow-up doctor’s appointment and she was running through the usual list of questions.  We

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[giwu]

Teasing...has your husband pointed out that if your do the former, the latter won't be required, or is he scared of you? Either way, I will be sending you hacksaws in cake until you claw your way out! Somehow, you don't strike me as the type of person who would marry a man who could keep a girlfiend in the dark for X number of years about his marital status. You probably wouldn't open a can of Elf-ass on her if she was ignorant.

I haven't sworn off men, but I have refused to commit to monogamy. When dating, the men do know it (I don't cheat). My last 'special friend' and I saw each other for over a year and I was there every step of the way when he met his fiancee, dated her, courted her and then they became a couple. I am extremely happy for him and he and I have gone to movies a couple of times since (she doesn't like movies and also is on a bowling team with her Ex). All very up and up.

In my original essay I asked the question: why do women stay with cheating men? But I decided to cut out most of that stuff and leave it to have something to respond with.

Why on earth would a woman stay with a man who has not just a physical affair, but an emotional affair as well? Obviously, he doesn't want you and is just settling. He doesn't respect you. Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want you? Oh-and any woman who stays with a man who has more than one emotional/physical affair, no more sympathy for you. He is now a serial cheat. Get out or get your own snuggle buddy.

Seriously, money is not a reason.

If you are in financial trouble while married, getting divorced is not going to make it that much worse (I say that from experience, I was married, we were poor and in some massive debt. Nine years later I am debt free and in another 2-3 years I will have a $200K house if I keep doing what I am doing...meanwhile he is still in massive debt, so that tells you who the problem was with!).

Staying together for the kids? The statistics show most kids resent growing up in a household where they knew their parents hated each other. Kids do know these things.

PS...and just to keep teasing you...Paul Anka Did a great version of both Put Your Head on My Shoulder and Puppy Love. Not so much Leif Garret and Donny Osmond. 70's music still sucks...'cuse me while I take a break and go listen to The Pina Colada Song.