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[givenover18]

ok well camp is cool... the drive was pretty good... you know i always bring conflict wherever i go, josey and i got into it a little bit, but we got over it... hmm we got to see the Bartletts. that was encouraging... Wow someone popped all my tires b/f i left... that confused me, what in the world... i really don't want to flatter myself thinking

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[anonymous]

Amen, sister! I think the best way to handle this ever-present issue with guys is to bathe them in prayer. I know Brett would relegate me to the "nag" category if I confronted him with this too frequently. There is a time when it's ok to say something about it or even DO something about it; sometimes I clear my throat when there's someone on TV that calls for a channel change. Sometimes I come right out and say, "Um, hello? I'm right here!" But we need to face the fact that men are going to struggle with this til they're dead, and we can't mommy them 24/7, so we have to leave them in the hands of God, who IS with them 24/7. I think the key to deciding whether or not to really intervene lies with determining how serious the situation is. A glance is not adultery; when Brett looks briefly at a woman who is immodestly dressed, I give him a knowing look, but that's about all. A stare would be a little different, you know? Like maybe an elbow in the ribs? And of course, obsessions like pornography require even more invasive measures, like heart surgery (counseling, etc.)! Since you seem very determined that marriage is your goal, I would say maybe you should go ahead and get the book, Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, and pray for Chris as though he were going to be your husband. I use my book to pray for Brett and when I get to the end, I start over again. I've probably been through it 6 or 7 times now. I know I could just pray from the heart, and I do, don't get me wrong. But I really appreciate being reminded to pray about things I often forget about, and I really believe God has used my prayers to bring about major changes in Brett. You could get him the book, Power of a Praying Husband, but try not to get bent out of shape if he doesn't read it, or even if he doesn't pray for you! (I sometimes read his copy for myself!) Just keep praying; God will do the work in his life.

Have a great summer and keep me posted. I'm praying for you!

~Jenni

thanks

[givenover18]

thanks yeah i can usually have a balanced perspective, but i get really upset about 2 days a month about this... i do pray and confront the issue, but sometimes confronting it does more harm than good... especailly if my suspicions are wrong... but i know he is trying really hard to honor me and be thoughtful about this... im feeling better today, just observing some of the happy content married couples at camp, and i know i can see myself there... i mean if a guy wanted all this, he could have it, but he is choosing to be in a committed relationship with me, i can't blame him for temptaions the world throws at him, especially when he is trying so hard and genuinely cares about me and loves me... maybe a girl can turn his head, but i know that i have his heart... especially when marriage comes around, thats saying he loves me so much he wants to be devoted to me for life!!(0: sounds kinda cheesy but whatever