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I am taking a break from studying right now; more specifically psychology. I finished my Spanish homework. I still gotta do my critical thinking work after this. Kind of annoying, haha. That's life, I guess.
Yesterday I saw Inglorious Bastards with Jesse yesterday. It was pretty good.
As of how I am feeling right now, I am not all that sure. Like, I ( Read more... )
As a result you seem to always be so hyper-critical of yourself because of this need to understand and analyse every aspect of yourself, your family, your life situation, your relationships, and your own behaviours.
Just advice from a total stranger, but a good "coping mechanism" that helps us all get through a lot in life is the ability to assess which things are worth sweating over, losing sleep over, trying your best effort to fix, and which things ultimately won't matter in the grand cosmic scope of things.
The whole "learn to say just @#@$ it" or "don't sweat the small things" trivialises how important this is...you will enjoy life a lot more when, after that impulse to analyse any given "uncomfortable" or "awkward" or "embarrassing" situation, to ask yourself "will this really ultimately matter?" ^^ Instead of fretting how x, y, or z will worry or care about what you did, ask yourself "will the people I love most in life really care that I did this? Will it matter to them or change their opinions of me?"
If the answer is "yes" then by all means fix what you did wrong. But if it honestly is "no" (for those that do care about you) then what does it matter if sometimes you say the "wrong" thing? What does it matter if you made a faux paus? What does it matter if you aren't living up to some other person's view of how you should be or act or look? If these things don't matter to those that are most important in your life, then it just means you are being you. And that is actually a good thing no? Who the heck else are you going to be but you?
So no regrets, hon. IMHO, don't over-analyse yourself or second-guess yourself. For all the times you wonder "what if x/y/z happend with the outcome of a/b/c?"--guess what--if you were able to go back in time and you knew *only what you knew then* you'd actually almost CERTAINLY make the *same exact* choices (bad or good) that you made. You would. Think about that one.
So why lose sleep over the outcome? Just make sure if it comes again in the future you try your best to see the best choice.
So again, the unsolicited advice from a complete internet stranger is: don't beat yourself up over these small things, learn to enjoy what you actually have going and embrace it while you have it (instead of spending energy lamenting it when you lose it--and we all eventually lose good things sometimes, that's an inevitability), and learn to laugh at your faults (and those in others) instead of hate them so intensely. :)
Life is only as intolerably mundane and oppressive as you allow it to be. Good luck to you, and if you don't like unsolicited goofy internet advice, at least consider making posts "personal" or "friends-only". :p
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I don't mind having my LJ being read and responded to by others, so it's pretty nice to get a long response from someone, i.e. you, that wants me to realize what's good in my life and not to over-analyze so much.
Thank you. You should totally tell me who you are though, I like making new friends.
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Also it comes across as less creepy LOL.
Anyhow, you really should draw more...I know you are mentally getting ready for the drudgery of General Ed classes, but the sooner you start art classes, the better off you'll be.
Creators have to create. While we do get stuck in ruts (sometimes for years on end) due to compromised schedules, it's an unnatural state for a creator not to create. I won't get into "dharma" and "destiny" and all those high-falutin' concepts, but at least make time to sketch things out or do something right-brain for yourself. :p
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