Still deprogramming
I've been working on a bunch of things this year - personal things, deprogramming thought processes really. Which is something I have been working on I spose for about four years now. One of the thought processes I'm really having trouble shaking is the default that everyone else's happiness is more important than mine. It's a tough one but it also gets me into the most trouble, the need to please everyone. Cause guess what? It turns out, choosing to please yourself first and foremost brings unpleasant repercussions. Niiiice.
Anyway, I just had a revelation when someone was just explaining something to me on twitter. I also tend to assume that I am the stupid one in a conversation, so much so that I never realised how much it's not me asking a question in a bad way, it's actually that men are mansplaining the premise that my question sits on top of back to me. And it's like, I sit speechless puzzling over why they didn't answer the question, just explained to me the bit I already knew? And this one just now was from a guy whom I think would like to think he was ... more aware than others?
Meh.
Now I spose I'm gonna be aware of all the mansplaining I get through my day huh? I got one today at work but at least in that case, when I took it to my boss, he totally agreed with my position and took over to mansplain man to man.
Anyway, I just had a revelation when someone was just explaining something to me on twitter. I also tend to assume that I am the stupid one in a conversation, so much so that I never realised how much it's not me asking a question in a bad way, it's actually that men are mansplaining the premise that my question sits on top of back to me. And it's like, I sit speechless puzzling over why they didn't answer the question, just explained to me the bit I already knew? And this one just now was from a guy whom I think would like to think he was ... more aware than others?
Meh.
Now I spose I'm gonna be aware of all the mansplaining I get through my day huh? I got one today at work but at least in that case, when I took it to my boss, he totally agreed with my position and took over to mansplain man to man.