Yeah yeah, I know, he's really good for me
Over the holiday period (well, he's on holidays anyway), maelkann and I decided to see if we still really liked each other if we hung out more than a couple of times a week. I think our friendship stood the test of distance when he was at sea for 5 months in 2009 - after all, it was when he came home that we decided to take our relationship to the next level (and use the girl/boyfriend words). But he lives a good hour's drive away from me (and my life) and so we've been juggling that this last year.
For a while we just caught up on weekends, which was nice, really. The first time I haven't jumped two feet into a relationship. We took things slowly and still had our own space and time to do our own things. And then he went back to uni part time to finish his other degree and that meant that he was up in Perth a few more nights a week and so we spent more time together. And still didn't fight. But this last two weeks or so, is the first time we've "lived" in the same space. I'm still going to work but otherwise, we've hung out. And um ... can't say that it feels anything other than normal and right. We haven't gotten underfoot or overly imposed on each other's preferences for hanging out. And with what happened, it's been very comforting to be together and not have to be alone or separated. I think that makes missing the puppy less and more - I'm not in solitude and thus feeling the silence and absence of puppy but at the same time, we were a trio and now we are a duo.
But, I have been joking that being at maelkann's place is like being at an exercise/fitness camp. See, maelkann listens to me. Not only that but he's the kind of person where if you say, "I've always wanted to be/do X", when you next see him, he's researched everything about X and bought you all the tools you need to execute it. So ah, when you're someone like me who often says they wanna do X, Y and Z ... yeah ... So there's been running. And good food being cooked - everyday there is a new and exciting vegetarian soup! How does he do that? I've been looking for interesting and diverse vegetarian soups for years and only got like 1 standard recipe and any I try all end up tasting like that. We've had three different ones this week! (French onion, ravioli and vegetables, vegetables and cheddar). Also, he has far less snacking foods at his place. No cake! No biscuits! And he has taken on my fruit and veggie box thing.
The other thing about being here instead of at home, and the back and forth and living out of packed bags thing, is you can only do what you bring with you. You can only read the book you packed. Only work on the craft projects you brought and so on. And there is something about that that works for me. (Or rather, for the last couple of years I have suffered from short attention span. And I think this is one problem with the low reading, lack of finishing craft and so on.) It's no surprise, I'm sure, that the reason I'm struggling with my resolutions/2011 goals list is that there are too many things I want to put on it and even I know I don't have enough time to do them all. But because I've had to be focussed because I've had no other choice, I've been steadily making headway on 4 quilting projects over the last two weeks. And, I kinda like that.
But I still want to figure out a way of doing everything I want to put on this year's to do list whilst also not splitting focus and doing little bits on lots of things and not seeing much fruit from the labour. The thing is, in the end, you only ever do what you really want to do. Or what you're ready to decide to do or be. I'm finally getting to a point where I'm ready to make choices that result in me feeling better, less stressed, happier. So, the resolutions that stuck and became habit last year did so because I really wanted to make those changes. I'm just not sure right now which of the ones I "want" to do or change are ones that I "really want" to do or change.
For a while we just caught up on weekends, which was nice, really. The first time I haven't jumped two feet into a relationship. We took things slowly and still had our own space and time to do our own things. And then he went back to uni part time to finish his other degree and that meant that he was up in Perth a few more nights a week and so we spent more time together. And still didn't fight. But this last two weeks or so, is the first time we've "lived" in the same space. I'm still going to work but otherwise, we've hung out. And um ... can't say that it feels anything other than normal and right. We haven't gotten underfoot or overly imposed on each other's preferences for hanging out. And with what happened, it's been very comforting to be together and not have to be alone or separated. I think that makes missing the puppy less and more - I'm not in solitude and thus feeling the silence and absence of puppy but at the same time, we were a trio and now we are a duo.
But, I have been joking that being at maelkann's place is like being at an exercise/fitness camp. See, maelkann listens to me. Not only that but he's the kind of person where if you say, "I've always wanted to be/do X", when you next see him, he's researched everything about X and bought you all the tools you need to execute it. So ah, when you're someone like me who often says they wanna do X, Y and Z ... yeah ... So there's been running. And good food being cooked - everyday there is a new and exciting vegetarian soup! How does he do that? I've been looking for interesting and diverse vegetarian soups for years and only got like 1 standard recipe and any I try all end up tasting like that. We've had three different ones this week! (French onion, ravioli and vegetables, vegetables and cheddar). Also, he has far less snacking foods at his place. No cake! No biscuits! And he has taken on my fruit and veggie box thing.
The other thing about being here instead of at home, and the back and forth and living out of packed bags thing, is you can only do what you bring with you. You can only read the book you packed. Only work on the craft projects you brought and so on. And there is something about that that works for me. (Or rather, for the last couple of years I have suffered from short attention span. And I think this is one problem with the low reading, lack of finishing craft and so on.) It's no surprise, I'm sure, that the reason I'm struggling with my resolutions/2011 goals list is that there are too many things I want to put on it and even I know I don't have enough time to do them all. But because I've had to be focussed because I've had no other choice, I've been steadily making headway on 4 quilting projects over the last two weeks. And, I kinda like that.
But I still want to figure out a way of doing everything I want to put on this year's to do list whilst also not splitting focus and doing little bits on lots of things and not seeing much fruit from the labour. The thing is, in the end, you only ever do what you really want to do. Or what you're ready to decide to do or be. I'm finally getting to a point where I'm ready to make choices that result in me feeling better, less stressed, happier. So, the resolutions that stuck and became habit last year did so because I really wanted to make those changes. I'm just not sure right now which of the ones I "want" to do or change are ones that I "really want" to do or change.