My Truth

[gillo]

Or my perception of events. But it’s true for me.

Life this year has had highs and deep lows. I’m writing this to try to set some of it in context, mostly for myself.

Comments

[curiouswombat]

Oh Gill I am so sorry. Firstly for not commenting before - I have been skipping in and out of LJ, and missing things, for the past couple of months and clearly this was one of them.

This afternoon I have gone through the friends list on my own profile checking one at a time those I 'really know' for anything I might have missed and saw this, and the previous post.

But primarily I am so sorry that you have been treated like that - I know how enthusiastic you were about setting up the new site and it now sounds as if it all became completely toxic. (I also agree with you, for what its worth, that the whole idea of a constitutional monarchy is that it is not political, and that Spike and Giles would certainly have raised a glass in memorium. It showed a crass lack of understanding of any culture not their own for anyone to take exception.)

I really do hope your mental health is beginning to improve by now - and can see that it will take time. My thought as I read is that it is the equivalent of the damage being hit by a car on a zebra crossing would have on physical health.

Personally I would have been with your R, plotting revenge on your behalf - probably as well I wasn't involved really!

This is probably not the best time of year to visit us, but remember that is always a welcome for you here if you want a physical change of environment for a few days.

[gillo]

Thank you so much for this, Voirrey. I'm really struggling still - and feeling guilty for not being over with it. I keep composing letters in my head and going round in circles.

R was with us for an extended weekend, so I showed her their "official" account of what happened - and then had to talk her out of creating an account purely and solely to give them a piece of her mind! I'm not claiming I'm blameless, but if you have a look at their account of events you might see why. It's a grain of truth mixed with a lot of emotive language and multiple flat-out lies. And decent people are thanking them for their actions in dealing with this toxic person (me).

Hence why it's so hard to let it go. I really did not deserve that.

I'm really grateful you took the time to write your supportive comment.

[curiouswombat]

Hmm.... yes I am very tempted to work out how to comment, starting with the statement about the well being of users being their first priority etc. etc. Or do so to the FB group.

I have taken a few deep breaths and stepped away as there is no point in dragging it out. Suffice it to say that if I ever see a similar post on any community in future I will take it with a very large pinch of salt, knowing how very one-sided that post is.

[gillo]

The last thing I want is for anyone I care about to be dragged into this. I just can't bear the thought that the version of events published on the site is seen as definitive, when it is at the minimum vindictive and emotionally manipulative. But thank you for the impulse!

[curiouswombat]

When I told Paul he came and read your entry as well, and could not believe that something so obviously right (i.e. your comment about Spike and Giles) could be turned into such a stramash.

He decided he did not want to be associated with the site and has removed all his stories.

[gillo]

Paul is a sweetheart, and I am grateful to him. That probably proves I am a Bad Person.

[curiouswombat]

No - it proves you are a normal human :)