Focus on what you have now rather than what you wish to have in the future ...
eHarmony - Assessment Results
Self-Concept Factor
Low
68
High
score:
Having a strong sense of who you are and how you got that way is key to keeping your emotional baggage from weighing you down. Your profile indicates that you sometimes have trouble believing that there is something inherently valuable about yourself. To be happy in life, and successful in relationships, youll need to learn to believe in yourself and your innate worth more strongly.
Fear Factor
Low
42
High
score:
Fear and anxiety can hurt us in our attempts to live a happy life-no one is immune to them. However, your responses show that there are few areas on which past experiences have led to fear or anxieties that you cannot control.
Anger Factor
Low
35
High
score:
Anger is one of the primary ways that emotional baggage is expressed. Fortunately for you, your profile indicates that you seem to have good anger management skills. If you enter a romantic relationship with someone without your skills, it will be good for you, the relationship, and your partner if you can show how anger can be managed.
Trust Factor
Low
54
High
score:
Focusing on the negative in whats around us or in whats happened to us can form a very strong barrier to ridding ourselves of emotional baggage. These feelings can make us miss the happiness thats right in front of our eyes. You will be much better off in the long run if you can begin to focus on what you have now, rather than on what you didnt have in the past or on what you wish to have in the future. These vital first steps will allow you to dramatically improve your ability to find and experience love.
Contentment Factor
Low
78
High
score:
Being able to trust and to open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt and betrayed is a fundamental part of loving and being loved. Emotional baggage from prior hurts is the number one reason why people lose the ability to trust. Your profile indicates that you have a strong ability to trust others, which will be key as you work to form a satisfying and deep relationship with a partner.
Emotional Baggage Overall Factor
Low
0
High
score:
You appear to be carrying very little emotional baggage. Your profile indicates that you have a healthy dose of self-esteem and a strong capacity to trust people. You have managed to avoid developing any serious ingrained fears or attitudes from your past that might make it difficult for you to build a relationship with someone new that is based on the here and now.
Your healthy perspective makes it easy for you to be consistent and genuine with others about who you are. While there may be other you need to work on if you want to have the most successful relationship you can, your biggest issue in regard to emotional baggage will probably be learning how to deal with whatever issues, expectations, and attitudes your partner is carrying from past experiences.