I am the Cliche
Today I doubt my ability as an artist. ( How Cliche)
Today I doubt my ability as a parent. ( Also not unexpected)
Today I doubt my ability as a Mature Adult. (Last night's temper tantrum would undermine my confidence in that.)
While doubt is a good tool for safeguarding against rash and impetuous behaviours, it can swing to extremes. ( It's a good thing I am never at risk of that!) Doubt can lead to a checking of facts, reassurances and then careful forward movement. It can also lead to hesitation, fear and insecurity. It can lead to immobility which then becomes a self fulfilling prophesy. If one hesitates and stumbles forward, lacking in confidence and certainty, the chances of them succeeding in a way that would EMPOWER and INSPIRE self confidence is seriously diminished. NOT saying it doesn't happen, but the gods ( BoB is my current favorite one ) do get tired of throwing us 'gimmies' and golden nuggets after a while.
So to deny Doubt the ability to turn into Self Defeat there are a few things needed.
1) Activity - This does not mean turning on a movie! Avoiding the area of challenge can give the mind a break and allow it to come back "fresh" but a week of blowing through the Oscar List and suddenly "fresh" is "restarting" because you have lost opportunities and momentum.
2) Commitment - If you have verified that the risks are reasonable, the outcome what you want, and your concerns covered... be committed! No! I didn't say HAVE yourself Committed. Just make a time line. Make a list ( don't roll your eyes at me) of key steps/milestones to reach. Then do each one in a timely fashion. Don't hum and haw about IF you want to do it... Don't hum and haw about if you cannnnnn...... Self Doubt is not doubt of an idea. It's a lack of self faith and we are all guilty of under estimating ourselves! We are NOT the best judge all the time!
3) Reward - Starbucks coffee for staying on task and doing two things on the list today. A new pair of shoes for your first milestone. A blog posting of a minor success so that friends can cheer you on. Hell, a night of Oscars and risotto for staying on task all week. We never stop being kids. At the end of a week of 'school', the day you bring home your report card, or after getting that science poster done on time, our step lightens when we get a tangible reward.
mmmmm An hour of undisturbed Sims2 time! Now that will motivate me today!
Today I doubt my ability as a parent. ( Also not unexpected)
Today I doubt my ability as a Mature Adult. (Last night's temper tantrum would undermine my confidence in that.)
While doubt is a good tool for safeguarding against rash and impetuous behaviours, it can swing to extremes. ( It's a good thing I am never at risk of that!) Doubt can lead to a checking of facts, reassurances and then careful forward movement. It can also lead to hesitation, fear and insecurity. It can lead to immobility which then becomes a self fulfilling prophesy. If one hesitates and stumbles forward, lacking in confidence and certainty, the chances of them succeeding in a way that would EMPOWER and INSPIRE self confidence is seriously diminished. NOT saying it doesn't happen, but the gods ( BoB is my current favorite one ) do get tired of throwing us 'gimmies' and golden nuggets after a while.
So to deny Doubt the ability to turn into Self Defeat there are a few things needed.
1) Activity - This does not mean turning on a movie! Avoiding the area of challenge can give the mind a break and allow it to come back "fresh" but a week of blowing through the Oscar List and suddenly "fresh" is "restarting" because you have lost opportunities and momentum.
2) Commitment - If you have verified that the risks are reasonable, the outcome what you want, and your concerns covered... be committed! No! I didn't say HAVE yourself Committed. Just make a time line. Make a list ( don't roll your eyes at me) of key steps/milestones to reach. Then do each one in a timely fashion. Don't hum and haw about IF you want to do it... Don't hum and haw about if you cannnnnn...... Self Doubt is not doubt of an idea. It's a lack of self faith and we are all guilty of under estimating ourselves! We are NOT the best judge all the time!
3) Reward - Starbucks coffee for staying on task and doing two things on the list today. A new pair of shoes for your first milestone. A blog posting of a minor success so that friends can cheer you on. Hell, a night of Oscars and risotto for staying on task all week. We never stop being kids. At the end of a week of 'school', the day you bring home your report card, or after getting that science poster done on time, our step lightens when we get a tangible reward.
mmmmm An hour of undisturbed Sims2 time! Now that will motivate me today!