I can chime in on this one. It is true that you don't get to go out as often and that you get to where you don't want to go out as often. And it's also true that when you do want to go out, you might not get to because you can't get a babysitter. But that doesn't mean your life has stopped. Life after kids doesn't stop, sheesh - it doesn't even slow down! To me, that's when it started. Sure, it's different, but it's not a bad thing. Kids are awesome. If Wyatt didn't come running and yelling "Mama!" when I got home every evening, I would be so disappointed. If I didn't get those sweet hugs & kisses every night and little notes that say "I love you mom" with pictures drawn on them, I would be sad. Yes, they trash my house and they break my stuff, but I would be lost without them. They have taught me many lessons. My daughter that has cerebral palsy has taught me about determination and being strong. My oldest has taught me about taking things in stride and seeing beauty in everything, my 5 year old has taught me patience. My toddler has brought me joy and unconditional love. I don't think I'm misisng out on anything.
True! The rewards are beyond just having fun. I was raised that you take care of life first then make time for fun. Not theother way around. THis may be wrong to some, but Its important to me to be responsible when it comes to paying bills, not living beyond my means and so on.
Yeah, I miss out on a lot of "social" things, but honestly, i have been there and done that. I would much rather hit the road and go on an unknown adventure with nothing planned outside of getting drunk with a bunch of friends. Maybe I am jsut a grown up. Sometimes it sucks most of the time it doesnt.
I really dont miss the "up and go" freedom so much. I have my kids to set an example for, so i guess they aremore important. I dont care about what most people think about me, but my kids, YES I care what they see, hear and witness with me. I am thier role model, if they like it or not, they learn from me lol
With the news above, about me getting published, that knocked some sense into me FAST because I CAN do the things I want to in life!!! I just have to juggle kids, and honestly, im glad I dont have a boyfriend to distract me right now... maybe later, but not right now lol It would be unfair to him, because I am so busy here lately.
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I was raised that you take care of life first then make time for fun. Not theother way around. THis may be wrong to some, but Its important to me to be responsible when it comes to paying bills, not living beyond my means and so on.
Yeah, I miss out on a lot of "social" things, but honestly, i have been there and done that. I would much rather hit the road and go on an unknown adventure with nothing planned outside of getting drunk with a bunch of friends. Maybe I am jsut a grown up. Sometimes it sucks most of the time it doesnt.
I really dont miss the "up and go" freedom so much. I have my kids to set an example for, so i guess they aremore important. I dont care about what most people think about me, but my kids, YES I care what they see, hear and witness with me. I am thier role model, if they like it or not, they learn from me lol
With the news above, about me getting published, that knocked some sense into me FAST because I CAN do the things I want to in life!!! I just have to juggle kids, and honestly, im glad I dont have a boyfriend to distract me right now... maybe later, but not right now lol It would be unfair to him, because I am so busy here lately.
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