OMG THIS IS GOING ON MY BLOG
(2:32:13 pm)coolguy_2:hi
(2:32:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:Hi
(2:32:39 pm)coolguy_2:do christians wait til marriage before they have sex
(2:32:56 pm)PlaidCupcake:Some do, I guess
Um, what? That is a terrible way to start conversing with someone.
(2:33:08 pm)coolguy_2:as a christian does it matter because u have to forgive reguardless?
(2:33:45 pm)PlaidCupcake:You would only have to forgive, I guess, if you believe that sex is a sin
(2:34:01 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(2:34:21 pm)coolguy_2:i asked
(2:34:24 pm)coolguy_2:cause ur a christian
(2:35:09 pm)PlaidCupcake:okay?
He must've missed the "...and Laughing About It" part.
(2:35:50 pm)PlaidCupcake:I think I have a lot of different viewpoints than most other people who say they are Christians
(2:35:52 pm)coolguy_2:so how do you begin the process of forgiving a partner and having your joy back
(2:39:36 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why does it matter?
(2:40:00 pm)coolguy_2:well
(2:40:13 pm)coolguy_2:ur a christian
(2:40:50 pm)coolguy_2:and i think ur required to forgive
(2:41:09 pm)PlaidCupcake:but what does premarital sex have to do with anything?
(2:41:18 pm)coolguy_2:well
(2:41:27 pm)coolguy_2:i'm a virgin
(2:41:37 pm)coolguy_2:i'm required to forgive girls i like
(2:42:49 pm)coolguy_2:?
(2:43:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why do you need forgive someone for having sex? What's wrong with it?
(2:43:45 pm)coolguy_2:i get upset that it wasn;t just me
(2:44:24 pm)PlaidCupcake:It wasn't just you?
(2:44:32 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:44:47 pm)coolguy_2:that she didn't wait for me
(2:45:28 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why does it matter to you?
(2:45:56 pm)coolguy_2:because it affects my emotions when i think about it
(2:46:32 pm)PlaidCupcake:But why do you feel the need to forgive her, as you say?
(2:46:47 pm)PlaidCupcake:Do you think what she did was wrong?
(2:46:49 pm)coolguy_2:because i want more from her
(2:46:55 pm)coolguy_2:and she can';t give it to me
(2:47:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:What more do you want?
(2:47:37 pm)coolguy_2:i want to be she guy she loves so much she would do anything
Okay, he's starting to weird me out and sound stalkerish now...
(2:47:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she want you to be that guy?
(2:48:08 pm)PlaidCupcake:Because if she doesn't feel that way, there's not a whole lot that you can do
(2:48:10 pm)coolguy_2:not my call
(2:49:08 pm)coolguy_2:right
(2:49:12 pm)PlaidCupcake:It doesn't do you any good to go after a girl who doesn't want anything from you
(2:49:37 pm)PlaidCupcake:So why are you focusing on her sex life when it doesn't seem to have a whole lot to do with whether she wants you?
(2:50:19 pm)coolguy_2:because i can't change her sex life but her desire to love me can change constantly over time
(2:51:11 pm)PlaidCupcake:I might be wrong, but you judging her choices about her own body is not going to give you brownie points or anything
(2:51:29 pm)coolguy_2:your right
(2:51:58 pm)coolguy_2:it helps to have someone like you to counsole me about it
(2:52:06 pm)coolguy_2:can we continue this
(2:52:17 pm)PlaidCupcake:sure
Fantastic. I am now Free Therapy Over The Internet Girl!
(2:52:35 pm)coolguy_2:so whats solition
(2:52:40 pm)coolguy_2:solution
(2:52:51 pm)coolguy_2:do i focus on her and over come the strong hold
(2:52:52 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she know how you feel?
(2:52:59 pm)coolguy_2:or move on and potentonaly be alone
(2:53:05 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:53:20 pm)coolguy_2:she said if she could she would go back and wait
(2:53:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:Has she said anything about how she feels about you?
(2:53:23 pm)coolguy_2:but she can't
(2:53:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:Well, then don't make an issue about it with her
(2:53:58 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(2:54:04 pm)coolguy_2:what about me personally
(2:54:06 pm)coolguy_2:with myself
(2:54:07 pm)PlaidCupcake:Move on from the fact that she's had sex with someone else
(2:54:14 pm)coolguy_2:how do i over come it in my mind
(2:54:31 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why do you feel affected by this?
(2:54:39 pm)coolguy_2:and those pop ups of her sucking some guy's dick moaning
(2:54:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:Are you jealous that she's had sex with someone else?
(2:54:53 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:55:11 pm)PlaidCupcake:Is she still in contact with that person?
(2:55:17 pm)coolguy_2:no
(2:55:23 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she have feelings for him?
(2:55:31 pm)coolguy_2:no
(2:55:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she have feelings for you?
(2:55:50 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:56:57 pm)PlaidCupcake:Then, it seems like you're focusing so much on something she seems to regret doing
(2:57:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:and someone she has no feelings or contact with
(2:57:18 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:57:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:And it's probably doing nothing for her that you're dwelling on this
(2:57:42 pm)coolguy_2:nope pushes her away
(2:58:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:Well, then if you like her, and she likes you, why are you bringing up something that is doing neither of you any good?
(2:58:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm not telling you to ignore that it's happened, because it obviously is an issue for you both
(2:59:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:But acknowledge that it happened, and make sure that she has no desire to see this other dude again
(2:59:06 pm)coolguy_2:because i was jealous... selfish.... and wanted to have that moment with her
(2:59:07 pm)PlaidCupcake:and move on from it
(2:59:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why is so much value placed on virginity? If you love each other, the only sex that matters is the sex she has with you
Insert rant on patriarchy and virginity here in my mind.
(3:00:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:It's not like she's suddenly unpure or used up because she had sex with someone else
(3:00:22 pm)coolguy_2:well something confused me in the bible
What? Seriously? Oh, this is going to be fun. Good think he doesn't know my dad is The Rev.
(3:00:41 pm)PlaidCupcake:What confused you?
(3:00:48 pm)coolguy_2:something about when u have sex with someone u become one flesh and u become the same spirit that that other person was of
(3:01:00 pm)coolguy_2:so if i sleep with her i'd be sleeping with that guy's spirit to
What? Really? You must be of the Church of the Spoonfed Christians.
(3:02:25 pm)PlaidCupcake:Can I ask you a question? It might offend you
(3:02:34 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(3:03:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:Do believe in everything that is written in the Bible?
(3:03:38 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(3:04:13 pm)PlaidCupcake:Have you read the whole thing?
(3:04:20 pm)coolguy_2:no
Ah, you have confirmed my suspicions. You may actually be a deacon in the above-mentioned church.
(3:05:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:Okay, there are some ridiculous contradictions in there
(3:05:17 pm)PlaidCupcake:I personally believe that not everything written in the Bible was meant to be taken at face value
(3:05:48 pm)coolguy_2:to me it came from God so there for it must be truth
(3:05:50 pm)PlaidCupcake:And a lot of it needs to be read and understood, knowing the history and context of those times and the history of the version you're reading
(3:05:58 pm)PlaidCupcake:Yeah, but it came from God to Man
(3:06:03 pm)PlaidCupcake:Man is fallible
(3:06:13 pm)PlaidCupcake:Man could've gotten it wrong
(3:06:25 pm)coolguy_2:but thats why God gave the holy spirit as a helper
(3:06:37 pm)coolguy_2:and they know the voice of God and another they will not foollow
Sweet pogo-sticking Jay-sus. Did you not go through a questioning-your-faith process? This is going to be that kind of super-fun where I headdesk a lot, isn't it?
(3:07:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:Well, as a Christian, let's focus on the New Testament
(3:08:08 pm)coolguy_2:alright
(3:08:20 pm)PlaidCupcake:Where in there does Jesus talk about sex?
(3:08:34 pm)coolguy_2:idk
(3:08:43 pm)coolguy_2:christians maby?
(3:08:46 pm)coolguy_2:*corintians
(3:08:58 pm)PlaidCupcake:Corinthians was written by Paul
(3:09:00 pm)coolguy_2:check it out with the bible at www.biblegateway.com
Why yes it IS that sort of super-fun! *headdesk*
(3:09:34 pm)PlaidCupcake:No
(3:09:59 pm)coolguy_2:then i don;t know the answer
(3:10:07 pm)coolguy_2:kk
(3:10:34 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you don't know where the bible, in which you base your faith, tells you what or what not to do
(3:10:52 pm)PlaidCupcake:Then you should look that up
(3:11:12 pm)PlaidCupcake:And follow what your heart says, and blindly follow what people have told you
(3:11:36 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you love this girl, and she loves you, then what does it matter if she has had sex with someone else?
(3:11:54 pm)coolguy_2:lemme look
(3:11:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:If she did not love him, then they were not truly joined
(3:12:01 pm)PlaidCupcake:And you have nothing to worry about.
(3:13:05 pm)coolguy_2:1 Corinthians 6:15-17
(3:14:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:Okay, if you actually look at that passage, it's not really talking about sex
(3:14:22 pm)coolguy_2: 15Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
(3:14:32 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you, as a follower of Christ, do bad things
(3:14:56 pm)PlaidCupcake:it does bad things to the whole of the Christianity
(3:15:28 pm)PlaidCupcake:It's a metaphor
*headdesk headdesk*
(3:16:02 pm)coolguy_2:did u see verse 18
(3:16:30 pm)PlaidCupcake:Do you think sex is a sin?
(3:16:52 pm)coolguy_2:In the proper use of it within a marrage no
(3:17:00 pm)coolguy_2:but used improperly outside a marriage yes
Oh fantastic. THIS argument.
(3:17:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:What is the proper use, then?
(3:17:30 pm)coolguy_2:its between a husband and a wife
(3:17:43 pm)coolguy_2:a union, marriage
(3:19:34 pm)PlaidCupcake:And what do you think is the improper use of sex?
(3:21:51 pm)coolguy_2:hello
(3:22:50 pm)PlaidCupcake:You didn't say what you think is improper use of sex
(3:22:53 pm)coolguy_2:u 5there
(3:23:23 pm)PlaidCupcake:You didn't say what you think is improper use of sex
(3:23:27 pm)coolguy_2:back
(3:23:54 pm)coolguy_2:shacking up is improper use of sex
(3:24:04 pm)coolguy_2:sex between a boyfrien d and girlfriend is improper use of sex
(3:24:09 pm)coolguy_2:ect
(3:24:09 pm)coolguy_2:to me
(3:24:43 pm)coolguy_2:biblcaly
(3:25:38 pm)coolguy_2:called fornication
I'm also sure that picturing the girl you supposedly love having sex with someone else is also adultery, if we're going down this route. But wevs.
(3:26:05 pm)PlaidCupcake:So, it seems like you've already decided that she's sinned because she had sex outside of marriage
(3:26:13 pm)coolguy_2:but sex between a married couple in God's eyes is con cidered holy
And now, I start to lose it.
(3:26:30 pm)PlaidCupcake:No no, if you're going to use the bible about sex
(3:26:38 pm)PlaidCupcake:then only sex used as a means to procreate
(3:26:55 pm)coolguy_2:what do ya mean
(3:27:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:Nowhere in the Bible does it say that you can have sex for pleasure
(3:27:24 pm)PlaidCupcake:God said to go forth and make children
(3:27:30 pm)coolguy_2:o
(3:27:31 pm)PlaidCupcake:not go forth and have good sex
(3:27:41 pm)coolguy_2:i did not know that
Good. The more you know! *shooting star*
(3:29:37 pm)coolguy_2:taught me something
(3:29:52 pm)coolguy_2:so now where do we take this
(3:29:53 pm)coolguy_2:?
(3:29:59 pm)PlaidCupcake:So if you're going to base your beliefs and judgements about sex on the Bible, you can't just pick and choose
(3:30:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you love this girl, and she loves you right back
(3:30:26 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(3:30:54 pm)PlaidCupcake:follow your heart and don't take literally a book translated and retranslated improperly for centuries
Srsly, learn your faith, n00b.
(3:31:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:Forgive her in your heart, if that's what you feel you need to do
(3:31:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:but don't make her feel guilty for something it seems like she regrets
(3:31:46 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you get married, then that means that she is only going to have sex with you for the rest of her life
(3:31:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:And then does it really matter what she did before?
(3:32:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:Especially if she has no feelings or contact with this other dude
(3:32:25 pm)coolguy_2:no it doesn't matter anymore
(3:32:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:So move on. Don't make it an issue if it's not.
(3:33:09 pm)coolguy_2:with such a great personality like yours
(3:33:15 pm)coolguy_2:how come your single
(3:33:16 pm)coolguy_2:jw
Oh fuck me are you serious?
(3:33:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm not, really
(3:34:00 pm)coolguy_2:ur not really what
(3:34:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:I have a boyfriend, but I just moved 12 hours away
(3:34:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:And listing myself as single makes it easier to meet friends around here
(3:35:10 pm)coolguy_2:your a realy pretty girl inside and out u know that
Oh fuck me, you ARE serious. DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER DANGER. Also, how does he know what my insides look like? That's just WEIRD.
(3:35:20 pm)PlaidCupcake:thank you
(3:35:23 pm)coolguy_2:have you been to dobson
(3:35:42 pm)PlaidCupcake:I don't even know where that it
(3:35:45 pm)PlaidCupcake:is*
(3:35:52 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(3:36:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:So where is it?
(3:37:06 pm)coolguy_2:ya know..
(3:37:11 pm)coolguy_2:a girl with all that exactly as a wrote
(3:37:15 pm)coolguy_2:was in my life
(3:37:15 pm)coolguy_2:this was a true story
lolwut?
(3:37:57 pm)PlaidCupcake:I just moved from Michigan to North Carolina at the end of July, so I am probably not that girl.
(3:38:04 pm)coolguy_2:and they have a baby together
(3:38:18 pm)coolguy_2:she's not married to a wonderful guy
(3:38:25 pm)coolguy_2:so i'm by myself now
(3:38:26 pm)coolguy_2:and you've helped me to not have to struggle with that anymore
(3:38:31 pm)PlaidCupcake:good
Oh. Um. Okay then.
(3:38:37 pm)coolguy_2:but to look forward to the future in a new way
(3:39:47 pm)coolguy_2:can i add you to my yahoo and get your cell number
ABORT ABORT ABORT *SIREN SIREN SIREN* ABORT ABORT ABORT
(3:40:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:I don't have yahoo, and my cell is broken right now
Side note: it is not, just in case you were wondering.
(3:40:40 pm)coolguy_2:home phone?
(3:40:47 pm)PlaidCupcake:no landline
Who has a home phone anymore and is under 25?
(3:41:15 pm)coolguy_2:how older do you use this
(3:41:49 pm)PlaidCupcake:what?
(3:42:16 pm)coolguy_2:*how oftgen
(3:42:18 pm)coolguy_2:often
(3:42:33 pm)PlaidCupcake:few times a week, maybe
(3:43:05 pm)coolguy_2:i'd like to continue talking with you
Wut.
(3:43:13 pm)coolguy_2:youve's changed my life
Srsly, wut.
(3:43:22 pm)coolguy_2:and i want to keep that change in place
(3:43:52 pm)coolguy_2:so i want to continue this and holp that you keep showing me aspects of my life in this new light
WUT.
(3:45:49 pm)PlaidCupcake:I was trying to get you to think for yourself about your life
YOU JUST MISSED THE ENTIRE POINT OF MY LECTURE KTHXBAI
(3:49:08 pm)coolguy_2:thanks and don't stop
That's what she said?
(3:49:13 pm)coolguy_2:theres a long ways to go
(3:49:51 pm)coolguy_2::) wanna get married?
lolwut
(3:50:01 pm)coolguy_2:*blush
(3:50:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:No thanks, I'm good (:
I really hope you're joking please be joking
(3:50:21 pm)coolguy_2:well if you change your mind
(3:50:36 pm)coolguy_2:lemme know
(3:50:36 pm)coolguy_2::)
PLEASE BE JOKING PRETTY PLEASE
(3:50:52 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm pretty sure I don't want to move to Louisiana
(3:50:57 pm)PlaidCupcake:too hot and humid.
(3:51:32 pm)PlaidCupcake:And you would go crazy from marrying a girl who wasn't a virgin
(3:52:05 pm)coolguy_2:now that we had this talk
(3:52:15 pm)coolguy_2:i won;t
(3:52:27 pm)coolguy_2:because i know your mine
*HEADDESK HEADDESK HEADDESK*
(3:52:39 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm your what?
(3:52:41 pm)coolguy_2:and i know theres an entire future to live together
DDDD:
(3:52:52 pm)coolguy_2:in that senario
(3:53:15 pm)coolguy_2:plaid... ur utting me on the spot here
(3:53:19 pm)coolguy_2:why nyou say that
(3:53:24 pm)coolguy_2:after this big long talk u gave me
(3:53:28 pm)coolguy_2:?
*flail* *headdesk* *flail*
(3:54:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:lol, what? I hope you're joking
(3:54:43 pm)coolguy_2:nah
(3:54:52 pm)coolguy_2:just taking a step of cofidence there
(3:54:56 pm)coolguy_2::)
ABORT ABORT WEEOOO WEEOOOO ABORT ABORT
(3:55:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:right
(3:55:19 pm)coolguy_2:its legit
(3:55:27 pm)coolguy_2:your a christian
lol right.
(3:55:31 pm)coolguy_2:so meh
(3:55:35 pm)coolguy_2:its all cool
(3:55:41 pm)PlaidCupcake:In the very loosest definition of the word
(3:55:56 pm)coolguy_2:alrighty
(3:55:57 pm)coolguy_2:lol
(3:56:04 pm)coolguy_2:i'ma call you wify
I CANNOT HEADDESK ANYMORE I NEED THIS BRAIN INTACT
(3:56:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:You do that, kid
(3:56:35 pm)coolguy_2:werre the same age
O RLY, NOT IN BRAIN-THINKIN'
(3:56:35 pm)coolguy_2:lol
(3:56:38 pm)coolguy_2:why the kid
(3:56:47 pm)PlaidCupcake:Yeah, not intellectually
(3:57:02 pm)coolguy_2:well i'm geting there
(3:57:08 pm)coolguy_2:we can grow together
(3:57:30 pm)coolguy_2:loving wify
(3:57:31 pm)coolguy_2::)
*FLAIL* WHAT. NO. PLEASE TO BE FUCKING WITH ME A LOT.
(3:58:17 pm)coolguy_2:so what you do in this new city
AND topic switch. Hurrah?
(3:58:20 pm)coolguy_2:why ya move
(3:58:28 pm)PlaidCupcake:Job, and then graduate school
(3:58:44 pm)coolguy_2:cool
(3:58:54 pm)coolguy_2:so wanna get married soon
NOT HURRAH. VERY MUCH NOT HURRAH
(3:58:58 pm)coolguy_2:maby a year or do
(3:59:01 pm)coolguy_2:*two
OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD
(3:59:29 pm)PlaidCupcake:nope
(3:59:36 pm)PlaidCupcake:I don't know if I even want to get married
I probably do. But shhh.
(3:59:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:and I'm pretty sure I don't want to get married to you
(4:00:18 pm)coolguy_2:how come
I DON'T KNOW YOU, CRAZY FACE.
(4:00:44 pm)coolguy_2:don't say you dunno
I HAVE OTHER REASONS, THEN.
(4:00:51 pm)coolguy_2:because i said a YEAR or TWO
(4:01:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:I couldn't marry someone who follows blindly
You went from following the Bible blindly, and now me. NOT AN IMPROVEMENT K?
(4:01:26 pm)coolguy_2:well i'm growing
(4:01:31 pm)coolguy_2:i started late
(4:02:08 pm)coolguy_2:i'm catching up
You sure about that?
(4:02:42 pm)coolguy_2:can you work with me
(4:04:35 pm)coolguy_2:pancake
(4:06:32 pm)coolguy_2:cupcake
(4:06:39 pm)coolguy_2:you there
At this point I am debating whether to keep ignoring him, tell him off, or just block him. The middle one is most appealing. I am also swayed by the fact that people I have blocked JUST MAKE A NEW NAME AND FIND ME AGAIN.
(4:08:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:yeah
(4:08:59 pm)coolguy_2:with time u think u would grow to love me?
(4:09:03 pm)PlaidCupcake:I won't
(4:09:04 pm)coolguy_2:growing tohether?
(4:09:13 pm)coolguy_2:could you give me the reason why
(4:09:23 pm)PlaidCupcake:Because I love someone else
(4:09:40 pm)coolguy_2:thank you for your honesty
Whoa. Wait. That actually worked? Shit.
(4:10:13 pm)PlaidCupcake:Goodbye.
Aaaaand BLOCKINATED
(2:32:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:Hi
(2:32:39 pm)coolguy_2:do christians wait til marriage before they have sex
(2:32:56 pm)PlaidCupcake:Some do, I guess
Um, what? That is a terrible way to start conversing with someone.
(2:33:08 pm)coolguy_2:as a christian does it matter because u have to forgive reguardless?
(2:33:45 pm)PlaidCupcake:You would only have to forgive, I guess, if you believe that sex is a sin
(2:34:01 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(2:34:21 pm)coolguy_2:i asked
(2:34:24 pm)coolguy_2:cause ur a christian
(2:35:09 pm)PlaidCupcake:okay?
He must've missed the "...and Laughing About It" part.
(2:35:50 pm)PlaidCupcake:I think I have a lot of different viewpoints than most other people who say they are Christians
(2:35:52 pm)coolguy_2:so how do you begin the process of forgiving a partner and having your joy back
(2:39:36 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why does it matter?
(2:40:00 pm)coolguy_2:well
(2:40:13 pm)coolguy_2:ur a christian
(2:40:50 pm)coolguy_2:and i think ur required to forgive
(2:41:09 pm)PlaidCupcake:but what does premarital sex have to do with anything?
(2:41:18 pm)coolguy_2:well
(2:41:27 pm)coolguy_2:i'm a virgin
(2:41:37 pm)coolguy_2:i'm required to forgive girls i like
(2:42:49 pm)coolguy_2:?
(2:43:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why do you need forgive someone for having sex? What's wrong with it?
(2:43:45 pm)coolguy_2:i get upset that it wasn;t just me
(2:44:24 pm)PlaidCupcake:It wasn't just you?
(2:44:32 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:44:47 pm)coolguy_2:that she didn't wait for me
(2:45:28 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why does it matter to you?
(2:45:56 pm)coolguy_2:because it affects my emotions when i think about it
(2:46:32 pm)PlaidCupcake:But why do you feel the need to forgive her, as you say?
(2:46:47 pm)PlaidCupcake:Do you think what she did was wrong?
(2:46:49 pm)coolguy_2:because i want more from her
(2:46:55 pm)coolguy_2:and she can';t give it to me
(2:47:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:What more do you want?
(2:47:37 pm)coolguy_2:i want to be she guy she loves so much she would do anything
Okay, he's starting to weird me out and sound stalkerish now...
(2:47:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she want you to be that guy?
(2:48:08 pm)PlaidCupcake:Because if she doesn't feel that way, there's not a whole lot that you can do
(2:48:10 pm)coolguy_2:not my call
(2:49:08 pm)coolguy_2:right
(2:49:12 pm)PlaidCupcake:It doesn't do you any good to go after a girl who doesn't want anything from you
(2:49:37 pm)PlaidCupcake:So why are you focusing on her sex life when it doesn't seem to have a whole lot to do with whether she wants you?
(2:50:19 pm)coolguy_2:because i can't change her sex life but her desire to love me can change constantly over time
(2:51:11 pm)PlaidCupcake:I might be wrong, but you judging her choices about her own body is not going to give you brownie points or anything
(2:51:29 pm)coolguy_2:your right
(2:51:58 pm)coolguy_2:it helps to have someone like you to counsole me about it
(2:52:06 pm)coolguy_2:can we continue this
(2:52:17 pm)PlaidCupcake:sure
Fantastic. I am now Free Therapy Over The Internet Girl!
(2:52:35 pm)coolguy_2:so whats solition
(2:52:40 pm)coolguy_2:solution
(2:52:51 pm)coolguy_2:do i focus on her and over come the strong hold
(2:52:52 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she know how you feel?
(2:52:59 pm)coolguy_2:or move on and potentonaly be alone
(2:53:05 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:53:20 pm)coolguy_2:she said if she could she would go back and wait
(2:53:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:Has she said anything about how she feels about you?
(2:53:23 pm)coolguy_2:but she can't
(2:53:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:Well, then don't make an issue about it with her
(2:53:58 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(2:54:04 pm)coolguy_2:what about me personally
(2:54:06 pm)coolguy_2:with myself
(2:54:07 pm)PlaidCupcake:Move on from the fact that she's had sex with someone else
(2:54:14 pm)coolguy_2:how do i over come it in my mind
(2:54:31 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why do you feel affected by this?
(2:54:39 pm)coolguy_2:and those pop ups of her sucking some guy's dick moaning
(2:54:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:Are you jealous that she's had sex with someone else?
(2:54:53 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:55:11 pm)PlaidCupcake:Is she still in contact with that person?
(2:55:17 pm)coolguy_2:no
(2:55:23 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she have feelings for him?
(2:55:31 pm)coolguy_2:no
(2:55:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:Does she have feelings for you?
(2:55:50 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:56:57 pm)PlaidCupcake:Then, it seems like you're focusing so much on something she seems to regret doing
(2:57:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:and someone she has no feelings or contact with
(2:57:18 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(2:57:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:And it's probably doing nothing for her that you're dwelling on this
(2:57:42 pm)coolguy_2:nope pushes her away
(2:58:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:Well, then if you like her, and she likes you, why are you bringing up something that is doing neither of you any good?
(2:58:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm not telling you to ignore that it's happened, because it obviously is an issue for you both
(2:59:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:But acknowledge that it happened, and make sure that she has no desire to see this other dude again
(2:59:06 pm)coolguy_2:because i was jealous... selfish.... and wanted to have that moment with her
(2:59:07 pm)PlaidCupcake:and move on from it
(2:59:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:Why is so much value placed on virginity? If you love each other, the only sex that matters is the sex she has with you
Insert rant on patriarchy and virginity here in my mind.
(3:00:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:It's not like she's suddenly unpure or used up because she had sex with someone else
(3:00:22 pm)coolguy_2:well something confused me in the bible
What? Seriously? Oh, this is going to be fun. Good think he doesn't know my dad is The Rev.
(3:00:41 pm)PlaidCupcake:What confused you?
(3:00:48 pm)coolguy_2:something about when u have sex with someone u become one flesh and u become the same spirit that that other person was of
(3:01:00 pm)coolguy_2:so if i sleep with her i'd be sleeping with that guy's spirit to
What? Really? You must be of the Church of the Spoonfed Christians.
(3:02:25 pm)PlaidCupcake:Can I ask you a question? It might offend you
(3:02:34 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(3:03:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:Do believe in everything that is written in the Bible?
(3:03:38 pm)coolguy_2:yes
(3:04:13 pm)PlaidCupcake:Have you read the whole thing?
(3:04:20 pm)coolguy_2:no
Ah, you have confirmed my suspicions. You may actually be a deacon in the above-mentioned church.
(3:05:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:Okay, there are some ridiculous contradictions in there
(3:05:17 pm)PlaidCupcake:I personally believe that not everything written in the Bible was meant to be taken at face value
(3:05:48 pm)coolguy_2:to me it came from God so there for it must be truth
(3:05:50 pm)PlaidCupcake:And a lot of it needs to be read and understood, knowing the history and context of those times and the history of the version you're reading
(3:05:58 pm)PlaidCupcake:Yeah, but it came from God to Man
(3:06:03 pm)PlaidCupcake:Man is fallible
(3:06:13 pm)PlaidCupcake:Man could've gotten it wrong
(3:06:25 pm)coolguy_2:but thats why God gave the holy spirit as a helper
(3:06:37 pm)coolguy_2:and they know the voice of God and another they will not foollow
Sweet pogo-sticking Jay-sus. Did you not go through a questioning-your-faith process? This is going to be that kind of super-fun where I headdesk a lot, isn't it?
(3:07:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:Well, as a Christian, let's focus on the New Testament
(3:08:08 pm)coolguy_2:alright
(3:08:20 pm)PlaidCupcake:Where in there does Jesus talk about sex?
(3:08:34 pm)coolguy_2:idk
(3:08:43 pm)coolguy_2:christians maby?
(3:08:46 pm)coolguy_2:*corintians
(3:08:58 pm)PlaidCupcake:Corinthians was written by Paul
(3:09:00 pm)coolguy_2:check it out with the bible at www.biblegateway.com
Why yes it IS that sort of super-fun! *headdesk*
(3:09:34 pm)PlaidCupcake:No
(3:09:59 pm)coolguy_2:then i don;t know the answer
(3:10:07 pm)coolguy_2:kk
(3:10:34 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you don't know where the bible, in which you base your faith, tells you what or what not to do
(3:10:52 pm)PlaidCupcake:Then you should look that up
(3:11:12 pm)PlaidCupcake:And follow what your heart says, and blindly follow what people have told you
(3:11:36 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you love this girl, and she loves you, then what does it matter if she has had sex with someone else?
(3:11:54 pm)coolguy_2:lemme look
(3:11:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:If she did not love him, then they were not truly joined
(3:12:01 pm)PlaidCupcake:And you have nothing to worry about.
(3:13:05 pm)coolguy_2:1 Corinthians 6:15-17
(3:14:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:Okay, if you actually look at that passage, it's not really talking about sex
(3:14:22 pm)coolguy_2: 15Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
(3:14:32 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you, as a follower of Christ, do bad things
(3:14:56 pm)PlaidCupcake:it does bad things to the whole of the Christianity
(3:15:28 pm)PlaidCupcake:It's a metaphor
*headdesk headdesk*
(3:16:02 pm)coolguy_2:did u see verse 18
(3:16:30 pm)PlaidCupcake:Do you think sex is a sin?
(3:16:52 pm)coolguy_2:In the proper use of it within a marrage no
(3:17:00 pm)coolguy_2:but used improperly outside a marriage yes
Oh fantastic. THIS argument.
(3:17:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:What is the proper use, then?
(3:17:30 pm)coolguy_2:its between a husband and a wife
(3:17:43 pm)coolguy_2:a union, marriage
(3:19:34 pm)PlaidCupcake:And what do you think is the improper use of sex?
(3:21:51 pm)coolguy_2:hello
(3:22:50 pm)PlaidCupcake:You didn't say what you think is improper use of sex
(3:22:53 pm)coolguy_2:u 5there
(3:23:23 pm)PlaidCupcake:You didn't say what you think is improper use of sex
(3:23:27 pm)coolguy_2:back
(3:23:54 pm)coolguy_2:shacking up is improper use of sex
(3:24:04 pm)coolguy_2:sex between a boyfrien d and girlfriend is improper use of sex
(3:24:09 pm)coolguy_2:ect
(3:24:09 pm)coolguy_2:to me
(3:24:43 pm)coolguy_2:biblcaly
(3:25:38 pm)coolguy_2:called fornication
I'm also sure that picturing the girl you supposedly love having sex with someone else is also adultery, if we're going down this route. But wevs.
(3:26:05 pm)PlaidCupcake:So, it seems like you've already decided that she's sinned because she had sex outside of marriage
(3:26:13 pm)coolguy_2:but sex between a married couple in God's eyes is con cidered holy
And now, I start to lose it.
(3:26:30 pm)PlaidCupcake:No no, if you're going to use the bible about sex
(3:26:38 pm)PlaidCupcake:then only sex used as a means to procreate
(3:26:55 pm)coolguy_2:what do ya mean
(3:27:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:Nowhere in the Bible does it say that you can have sex for pleasure
(3:27:24 pm)PlaidCupcake:God said to go forth and make children
(3:27:30 pm)coolguy_2:o
(3:27:31 pm)PlaidCupcake:not go forth and have good sex
(3:27:41 pm)coolguy_2:i did not know that
Good. The more you know! *shooting star*
(3:29:37 pm)coolguy_2:taught me something
(3:29:52 pm)coolguy_2:so now where do we take this
(3:29:53 pm)coolguy_2:?
(3:29:59 pm)PlaidCupcake:So if you're going to base your beliefs and judgements about sex on the Bible, you can't just pick and choose
(3:30:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you love this girl, and she loves you right back
(3:30:26 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(3:30:54 pm)PlaidCupcake:follow your heart and don't take literally a book translated and retranslated improperly for centuries
Srsly, learn your faith, n00b.
(3:31:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:Forgive her in your heart, if that's what you feel you need to do
(3:31:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:but don't make her feel guilty for something it seems like she regrets
(3:31:46 pm)PlaidCupcake:If you get married, then that means that she is only going to have sex with you for the rest of her life
(3:31:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:And then does it really matter what she did before?
(3:32:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:Especially if she has no feelings or contact with this other dude
(3:32:25 pm)coolguy_2:no it doesn't matter anymore
(3:32:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:So move on. Don't make it an issue if it's not.
(3:33:09 pm)coolguy_2:with such a great personality like yours
(3:33:15 pm)coolguy_2:how come your single
(3:33:16 pm)coolguy_2:jw
Oh fuck me are you serious?
(3:33:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm not, really
(3:34:00 pm)coolguy_2:ur not really what
(3:34:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:I have a boyfriend, but I just moved 12 hours away
(3:34:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:And listing myself as single makes it easier to meet friends around here
(3:35:10 pm)coolguy_2:your a realy pretty girl inside and out u know that
Oh fuck me, you ARE serious. DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER DANGER. Also, how does he know what my insides look like? That's just WEIRD.
(3:35:20 pm)PlaidCupcake:thank you
(3:35:23 pm)coolguy_2:have you been to dobson
(3:35:42 pm)PlaidCupcake:I don't even know where that it
(3:35:45 pm)PlaidCupcake:is*
(3:35:52 pm)coolguy_2:ok
(3:36:55 pm)PlaidCupcake:So where is it?
(3:37:06 pm)coolguy_2:ya know..
(3:37:11 pm)coolguy_2:a girl with all that exactly as a wrote
(3:37:15 pm)coolguy_2:was in my life
(3:37:15 pm)coolguy_2:this was a true story
lolwut?
(3:37:57 pm)PlaidCupcake:I just moved from Michigan to North Carolina at the end of July, so I am probably not that girl.
(3:38:04 pm)coolguy_2:and they have a baby together
(3:38:18 pm)coolguy_2:she's not married to a wonderful guy
(3:38:25 pm)coolguy_2:so i'm by myself now
(3:38:26 pm)coolguy_2:and you've helped me to not have to struggle with that anymore
(3:38:31 pm)PlaidCupcake:good
Oh. Um. Okay then.
(3:38:37 pm)coolguy_2:but to look forward to the future in a new way
(3:39:47 pm)coolguy_2:can i add you to my yahoo and get your cell number
ABORT ABORT ABORT *SIREN SIREN SIREN* ABORT ABORT ABORT
(3:40:02 pm)PlaidCupcake:I don't have yahoo, and my cell is broken right now
Side note: it is not, just in case you were wondering.
(3:40:40 pm)coolguy_2:home phone?
(3:40:47 pm)PlaidCupcake:no landline
Who has a home phone anymore and is under 25?
(3:41:15 pm)coolguy_2:how older do you use this
(3:41:49 pm)PlaidCupcake:what?
(3:42:16 pm)coolguy_2:*how oftgen
(3:42:18 pm)coolguy_2:often
(3:42:33 pm)PlaidCupcake:few times a week, maybe
(3:43:05 pm)coolguy_2:i'd like to continue talking with you
Wut.
(3:43:13 pm)coolguy_2:youve's changed my life
Srsly, wut.
(3:43:22 pm)coolguy_2:and i want to keep that change in place
(3:43:52 pm)coolguy_2:so i want to continue this and holp that you keep showing me aspects of my life in this new light
WUT.
(3:45:49 pm)PlaidCupcake:I was trying to get you to think for yourself about your life
YOU JUST MISSED THE ENTIRE POINT OF MY LECTURE KTHXBAI
(3:49:08 pm)coolguy_2:thanks and don't stop
That's what she said?
(3:49:13 pm)coolguy_2:theres a long ways to go
(3:49:51 pm)coolguy_2::) wanna get married?
lolwut
(3:50:01 pm)coolguy_2:*blush
(3:50:06 pm)PlaidCupcake:No thanks, I'm good (:
I really hope you're joking please be joking
(3:50:21 pm)coolguy_2:well if you change your mind
(3:50:36 pm)coolguy_2:lemme know
(3:50:36 pm)coolguy_2::)
PLEASE BE JOKING PRETTY PLEASE
(3:50:52 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm pretty sure I don't want to move to Louisiana
(3:50:57 pm)PlaidCupcake:too hot and humid.
(3:51:32 pm)PlaidCupcake:And you would go crazy from marrying a girl who wasn't a virgin
(3:52:05 pm)coolguy_2:now that we had this talk
(3:52:15 pm)coolguy_2:i won;t
(3:52:27 pm)coolguy_2:because i know your mine
*HEADDESK HEADDESK HEADDESK*
(3:52:39 pm)PlaidCupcake:I'm your what?
(3:52:41 pm)coolguy_2:and i know theres an entire future to live together
DDDD:
(3:52:52 pm)coolguy_2:in that senario
(3:53:15 pm)coolguy_2:plaid... ur utting me on the spot here
(3:53:19 pm)coolguy_2:why nyou say that
(3:53:24 pm)coolguy_2:after this big long talk u gave me
(3:53:28 pm)coolguy_2:?
*flail* *headdesk* *flail*
(3:54:26 pm)PlaidCupcake:lol, what? I hope you're joking
(3:54:43 pm)coolguy_2:nah
(3:54:52 pm)coolguy_2:just taking a step of cofidence there
(3:54:56 pm)coolguy_2::)
ABORT ABORT WEEOOO WEEOOOO ABORT ABORT
(3:55:14 pm)PlaidCupcake:right
(3:55:19 pm)coolguy_2:its legit
(3:55:27 pm)coolguy_2:your a christian
lol right.
(3:55:31 pm)coolguy_2:so meh
(3:55:35 pm)coolguy_2:its all cool
(3:55:41 pm)PlaidCupcake:In the very loosest definition of the word
(3:55:56 pm)coolguy_2:alrighty
(3:55:57 pm)coolguy_2:lol
(3:56:04 pm)coolguy_2:i'ma call you wify
I CANNOT HEADDESK ANYMORE I NEED THIS BRAIN INTACT
(3:56:21 pm)PlaidCupcake:You do that, kid
(3:56:35 pm)coolguy_2:werre the same age
O RLY, NOT IN BRAIN-THINKIN'
(3:56:35 pm)coolguy_2:lol
(3:56:38 pm)coolguy_2:why the kid
(3:56:47 pm)PlaidCupcake:Yeah, not intellectually
(3:57:02 pm)coolguy_2:well i'm geting there
(3:57:08 pm)coolguy_2:we can grow together
(3:57:30 pm)coolguy_2:loving wify
(3:57:31 pm)coolguy_2::)
*FLAIL* WHAT. NO. PLEASE TO BE FUCKING WITH ME A LOT.
(3:58:17 pm)coolguy_2:so what you do in this new city
AND topic switch. Hurrah?
(3:58:20 pm)coolguy_2:why ya move
(3:58:28 pm)PlaidCupcake:Job, and then graduate school
(3:58:44 pm)coolguy_2:cool
(3:58:54 pm)coolguy_2:so wanna get married soon
NOT HURRAH. VERY MUCH NOT HURRAH
(3:58:58 pm)coolguy_2:maby a year or do
(3:59:01 pm)coolguy_2:*two
OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD
(3:59:29 pm)PlaidCupcake:nope
(3:59:36 pm)PlaidCupcake:I don't know if I even want to get married
I probably do. But shhh.
(3:59:44 pm)PlaidCupcake:and I'm pretty sure I don't want to get married to you
(4:00:18 pm)coolguy_2:how come
I DON'T KNOW YOU, CRAZY FACE.
(4:00:44 pm)coolguy_2:don't say you dunno
I HAVE OTHER REASONS, THEN.
(4:00:51 pm)coolguy_2:because i said a YEAR or TWO
(4:01:10 pm)PlaidCupcake:I couldn't marry someone who follows blindly
You went from following the Bible blindly, and now me. NOT AN IMPROVEMENT K?
(4:01:26 pm)coolguy_2:well i'm growing
(4:01:31 pm)coolguy_2:i started late
(4:02:08 pm)coolguy_2:i'm catching up
You sure about that?
(4:02:42 pm)coolguy_2:can you work with me
(4:04:35 pm)coolguy_2:pancake
(4:06:32 pm)coolguy_2:cupcake
(4:06:39 pm)coolguy_2:you there
At this point I am debating whether to keep ignoring him, tell him off, or just block him. The middle one is most appealing. I am also swayed by the fact that people I have blocked JUST MAKE A NEW NAME AND FIND ME AGAIN.
(4:08:40 pm)PlaidCupcake:yeah
(4:08:59 pm)coolguy_2:with time u think u would grow to love me?
(4:09:03 pm)PlaidCupcake:I won't
(4:09:04 pm)coolguy_2:growing tohether?
(4:09:13 pm)coolguy_2:could you give me the reason why
(4:09:23 pm)PlaidCupcake:Because I love someone else
(4:09:40 pm)coolguy_2:thank you for your honesty
Whoa. Wait. That actually worked? Shit.
(4:10:13 pm)PlaidCupcake:Goodbye.
Aaaaand BLOCKINATED