i really need my head examined! is there a doctor n the house?

[gh_lover]

those friends who know me closely know this story.

2 nights ago a guy i was hoping to get involved w/ who i've known for almost 10 yrs IM'd me out of the blue. i hadn't talked to him n almost a year. for the time i've known him he's been trying to pursue me. everytime i think i might end up happy something happens and he ends up breaking my heart.

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[littlemisstexas]

Hi hun,

I'm so sorry for all the stress and confusion this situation is causing you and I'm deeply sorry to hear that he hasn't been able to see his son. *huge, huge, huge hugs & endless love* : ( ♥ I sincerely hope with all my heart that everything will work out the very best that it can and I'm sending you both good luck and good thoughts. ♥

I want to apologize in advance if this advice isn't very helpful, but I would take things very, very, very slow and give yourself lots of time to think about what you want to do. If you want to talk to him that's fine of course, I'm just saying don't rush into anything and give it some time so your mind will be completely clear when you make a decision. I know he means a great deal to you and I wholeheartedly respect that, but I also know he's broken your heart a few times before. I honestly don't think he's a bad guy, but it sounds like he still has some issues to work through on top of the situation with his son and wife, and he may not be thinking clearly at the moment. Meaning that if his intention in contacting you again is to start a relationship, now might not be the best time for it. He'll have to have time to work through his issues and sort out the situation with his wife and son and recover from it and you'll have to have time to get over the shock of him contacting you again and heal from past hurts. After that happens and you've both had a lot of time to really think about what y'all want and you decide you want to be together then-and only then- would it be a good idea to try again, but most definitely not now.

I'm sorry sweetie, I know that it is very painful and hard and I know from experience that you can't help who you fall in love with and that the heart wants what it wants, but sometimes what it wants isn't always best for you in the long run. I'm afraid that if y'all were to try again right now considering how rocky things are in his life at the moment you would get hurt again. Just give yourself time to think things through and to recover, eventually you'll know what to do.

Again, I wish the very best and I hope that everything works out as well as it can for you and for him, good luck sweetie. *huge, huge hugs & endless love again* ♥

Love,
J Sho.

[gh_lover]

the night i first talked 2 him i told him i wouldn't talk about "it" until he has gone thru the divorce fully and is sure of what he wants. from experience i know he doesn't have a lot of money so he can't really afford 1 atm. he also said he wanted 2 move. the good thing if he was being serious about me is he's getting closer and closer..he did live 2 hours away and now he's only 1 until he moves again and who knows where that'll b