Do our actions really say who we are? If you treat someone badly does that mean you're a bad person?
You can make poor decisions and still be a good person overall. Being desperate to fit in can effect your choices but it doesn't make you a desperate person. Your actions show what you want not who you are. In this case the saying "actions speak louder than words" is entirely true, but in the perspective of who you are this couldn't be farther from the truth. Your heart shows who you truly are as a person and your actions do have some part in showing who you truly are. Yes, there are people who lie through their teeth and their words just aren't trustworthy and how can you see someones heart? Through the actions they portray when no one is looking. Judge not by their actions alone. Look at who people truly are before you judge them.
Inspiration: My inspiration for this came from watching a episode of BH 90210(old) yeah you might see a pattern... A lot of my deep thoughts come from watching TV. I once came up with a whole topic for my essay for school watching Heores. I'm not kidding!