Have you ever been objectified for part of yourself that you don't particularly appreciate? Or have you ever been the one objectifying that in someone else? How did it go
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Hmm..Wow. I’m a chaser and I like chubs. Bellies don’t necessarily turn me on, though I am a big butt man. And that’s a difficult line between objectifying chubs and being turned on by someone who has what I like. There are 2 things I what to say.
First, I understand how you feel. I’m Black. And there are guys who date/want nothing but Black men. I’ve been with guys who have looked/stared at every Black man in a visible eye line. And there have been guys who were with me because I am Black. So I understand the insecurity with that and it relates to being a chaser wanting a chub. I’m attracted to chubs yes. However, there has to be more like a connection, commonalities, etc. I’m not with someone because they are chubby, though it does help because that may be a 1st attraction. Good or bad, it is what it is. Just like someone may be with me because I’m Black, I have to accept it as well..good or bad.
Second, and this question has been posed to me. If chubs are my general attraction, what happens when you are no longer a chub. Say you lost weight and you became a husky guy. I would like to think that all the love and the relationship would remain. But what about what happens when what attracted is no longer there? And therefore, can no longer objectify.
First, I understand how you feel. I’m Black. And there are guys who date/want nothing but Black men. I’ve been with guys who have looked/stared at every Black man in a visible eye line. And there have been guys who were with me because I am Black. So I understand the insecurity with that and it relates to being a chaser wanting a chub. I’m attracted to chubs yes. However, there has to be more like a connection, commonalities, etc. I’m not with someone because they are chubby, though it does help because that may be a 1st attraction. Good or bad, it is what it is. Just like someone may be with me because I’m Black, I have to accept it as well..good or bad.
Second, and this question has been posed to me. If chubs are my general attraction, what happens when you are no longer a chub. Say you lost weight and you became a husky guy. I would like to think that all the love and the relationship would remain. But what about what happens when what attracted is no longer there? And therefore, can no longer objectify.
It’s a knife that cuts both ways. A catch 22 no?
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