is it a crime to be single nowadays?
to my single friends, and by that i mean those who are not married, hear me out.
what do you say when you feel like you're at the losing end of an argument with someone just because their concerns are "greater" than yours, just because they're married, or they have kids, or whatever it is that married people have that us single people don't.
recently i found out that there is NOTHING you can say or do about it. you just have to accept that you have to give way to them.
coz no matter what you say, they won't understand you. coz your concerns are trivial compared to theirs.
but that does not mean you're not allowed to be hurt by their insensitivity, ryt? or that you're not allowed to ask for a little consideration for your trivial concerns. coz no matter how mundane they may be, they are real to YOU. and you deserve to be understood. or, at the very least, you deserve the opportunity to air out your thoughts to them, regardless if they are actually listening to you or not.
so to those who feel like they have a lot in their lives because they're dealing with adult stuff, i hope you understand that us singletons also have a life, with its own set of problems and concerns, no matter how insignificant they may be compared to your "real-life" problems. and i hope you won't dismiss us that easily, just because we don't share the same concerns. coz we care when you have problems with your marriage, or your kids, or your in-laws. maybe you could also share the same concern when we worry about our work, or our outfits, or our lovelives, and not merely dismiss them as trivial and go off saying "you feel that way coz you don't have a husband/kid/family yet...".
if you want us to give you consideration, give us consideration as well.
it's all about respect.
and that is all i have to say about that.
what do you say when you feel like you're at the losing end of an argument with someone just because their concerns are "greater" than yours, just because they're married, or they have kids, or whatever it is that married people have that us single people don't.
recently i found out that there is NOTHING you can say or do about it. you just have to accept that you have to give way to them.
coz no matter what you say, they won't understand you. coz your concerns are trivial compared to theirs.
but that does not mean you're not allowed to be hurt by their insensitivity, ryt? or that you're not allowed to ask for a little consideration for your trivial concerns. coz no matter how mundane they may be, they are real to YOU. and you deserve to be understood. or, at the very least, you deserve the opportunity to air out your thoughts to them, regardless if they are actually listening to you or not.
so to those who feel like they have a lot in their lives because they're dealing with adult stuff, i hope you understand that us singletons also have a life, with its own set of problems and concerns, no matter how insignificant they may be compared to your "real-life" problems. and i hope you won't dismiss us that easily, just because we don't share the same concerns. coz we care when you have problems with your marriage, or your kids, or your in-laws. maybe you could also share the same concern when we worry about our work, or our outfits, or our lovelives, and not merely dismiss them as trivial and go off saying "you feel that way coz you don't have a husband/kid/family yet...".
if you want us to give you consideration, give us consideration as well.
it's all about respect.
and that is all i have to say about that.