She couldn't speak English when she first went to school and then became deaf in the third grade. She quit to help her mom raise her brothers and sisters. then she went on to raise all of us. She loved to read, enjoyed soppy romantic stories and loved life. She was a class act all the way.
My head is still swirling with horrific stories of abuse and neglect from mothers (which is what my incredible mom and I talked about on Mother's Day) and the sort of life it created for their children (and their grandchildren).
It's sorta like,.. the mother picks the father, and the mother picks whether she will keep the child. Once the stage is set of the mothers decisions, the child is either blessed with a mother (and/or a father) who will raise them the best they can with all the love/understanding they can muster (to varying degrees of success),... or they are cursed with a mother (and/or father) who don't know how to love/understand other people... even their own children, and the children almost never recover from that.
Whether it is the dad or the mom who is the lead parent,... it is the hardest job in the world, hands down. I know this *because* I'm NOT a parent!!
And in some case these people never wanted to be parents, but it was forced upon them as they have no option with the children, since religion and now politics are against the mother's choice. I feel badly for anyone forced into that situation and not able to either not have the child or be able to surrender them.
I'm specifically thinking of 3 mothers who had every option and decided that yes they wanted the pregnancy/child, but then were at a loss what to do THEN. Making older children raise the youngers, some who place themselves or their partnership far ahead of the children's needs, those regularly abandon their children only to come back weeks, months, or years later to 'reclaim' them,.. those who leave their children in the hands of abusers.. or who are abusers themselves
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I have been lucky to not have known any 'bad mothers' personally, just what I've seen on the news and I'm good with that. Lots of bad stuff happens and it's our job to do the best we can with what we have.
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It's sorta like,.. the mother picks the father, and the mother picks whether she will keep the child. Once the stage is set of the mothers decisions, the child is either blessed with a mother (and/or a father) who will raise them the best they can with all the love/understanding they can muster (to varying degrees of success),... or they are cursed with a mother (and/or father) who don't know how to love/understand other people... even their own children, and the children almost never recover from that.
Whether it is the dad or the mom who is the lead parent,... it is the hardest job in the world, hands down. I know this *because* I'm NOT a parent!!
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