A Few Good Links...and It Gets Better

[gehayi]

In the wake of the Tyler Clementi tragedy--what the hell IS it with cyberbullies harassing college kids this September?--my friend Ani_bester points out that you can make a difference by doing any, some or all of these things

Comments

[shaolina]

Thank you for sharing gehayi. This was wonderful and the video was really cute and touching. I've seen this happen and I've lived some of it myself. It really does get better.

[gehayi]

I'm sorry that you've lived any of this. I'm sorry for anyone who does. I've been bullied too, albeit not for orientation; just being a short intelligent girl was dangerous for me.

I honestly don't recall it ending until I left high school. I do remember believing throughout grammar school that the bullies, who ran in a pack of twenty or so and who were frequently armed with baseball bats and hockey sticks when they ran after me, would kill me and then claim, "It was an accident. Goshers, Gehayi's mom, we didn't know that she was that badly hurt, and we were just playing. We didn't mean any harm. We're sorry

[gehayi]

You are goofy, smart, funny, and extremely kind. And emotional abuse sucketh mightily.

It doesn't really help to know that others have it worse. At least, it's never helped me. I'm not sure how that's supposed to help, even. "I'm in a shitty situation, but I can still be happy because there are people who are infinitely more miserable than I am?" It sounds very Bella, doesn't it?

I am glad that you've got some good things in your life, however. Because damn it, you deserve them.

[shaolina]

Oh, heavens no. I don't want to be Bella Swan. Still, it's hard to break with ideas cemented to you as a kid. It has taken a lot to like and accept myself, but I still can't help feeling ashamed of crying. So whenever I express it I feel like an inconsiderate self-absorbed bitch. I can't help feeling like that.