Good News, Bad News

[gehayi]

The first piece of good news is that I won first place in the Best of Fandom UFO Awards for the Dresden Files story "The Affairs of Wizards." (Not that fandom awards mean much, but I'm very pleased just the same

Comments

[thursday_gal]

Can you sever the POA? It seems a bit sever to have all of that suggested to you.

[gehayi]

The problem is that she's a neighbor. And she sees me as eleven going on ten.

That said, yes, it does seem severe and I won't do it.

[thursday_gal]

Wow, I can spell, can't I?

There's always a chance that she did start out with your best interests at heart and is just, as you say, seeing you as a child still. Add to that outside influences like a lawyer and her own kids, and people saying 'oh, look how much you do for her and all for free' and it starts to get a bit messy.

PoAs are always scary things. My dad had my grandmother's, and it caused SUCH drama in the family when she started to lose her memory. If it had been up to the eldest brother, they would have put her in a province run home, sold all her stuff and skedaddled. Whereas my dad set up in home care using her savings and with a budgeted plan. So, yes, you need someone you can trust, cause too often it does go badly. When you NEED the person to make the decisions for you, that is, you need them to understand the ones you want made and where you're coming from.

[lee_rowan]

I think it's just a little better to have a neighbor who's annoyed with you than a neighbor who has control over your finances and thinks she knows, better than you do, who you are and what you need. It is a terribly awkward situation, but the fact that she refuses to discuss anything rationally is a big red danger sign. "You don't TRUST me!" -- translation: "You caught me betraying your trust and I'm going to make a scene unless you agree to continue letting me control your life."

Is there any sort of mediation service you might consult? You can't have a rational discussion with her one-on-one, but an objective mediator might be of use to keep the discussion on-track and call BS on her if she throws a tantrum.

She'll make a terrific villain in a story someday, though.

[bktheirregular]

Neighbors be damned, she left you to freeze and she's trying to steal your house. She's breached her fiduciary duty to you. Get that POA revoked, and legally, she must return to you control of all your finances. If she objects, hey, "you left me to freeze" is actually words of one syllable, and it's incontrovertible fact.

And if they try to coerce you, or if they don't release *all* your assets back to you - take them to court and you just might take a bite out of *their* assets.