Writer's Block: Every Four Years
By going to court to try to get a protection order lifted from my Boyfriend whom I love so very much. We have found that he attacked me from having seizures. But he doesn't have proof that is what we are waiting for with the courts. I did not know this why he was acting so strangely that night, but he had been suffering for months and I did tell him to get a neurologist.
We are just waiting on paperwork on his Shrink and his therapist. And I think it's bullshit. Because I believe he is not a threat. Now that he is on meds to control those seizures he is fine. But I went to court for nothing. And basically that lady slapped me in the face with to call back March 20th to have it lifted only a little. Seriously, I am the victim here, and the State of CT has control. I want to write to the State Commissioners Office about this bureaucracy going on at family violence services. I have no rights to advocate that I don't want this man punished for what he did. This is why they are punishing me. Who is to say that if he dumps me, he will go out with another woman, which he won't, but lets say he does, and hit the fuck out her, which he won't, because he was not in control at the time he did what he did? They are just going to punish him more and just stick another protective order. It's just ridiculous and it's only a feel good law for them these protective orders for the victims. I can see if the victim actually needs and wants it. Yes I can totally see that.
Most of the time Victims are not pressured and people that I have spoken to outside that family violence class are going through hell, because the other side, spouse or husband is hold their kids or house or whatever under them as a weapon. They aren't able to see them. Now ask me this who is this helping? Not the victims, yes it gives them a lot of vindictive power, but I thought these classes were supposed to help the person who did the act of violence?
And I do not think they are. Not when they have all this background crap going on. I think if they had the protection order lifted and the spouse supported them in ways like I do with my boyfriend, then maybe it would be better. It's just bullshit. Utter bullshit.
We are just waiting on paperwork on his Shrink and his therapist. And I think it's bullshit. Because I believe he is not a threat. Now that he is on meds to control those seizures he is fine. But I went to court for nothing. And basically that lady slapped me in the face with to call back March 20th to have it lifted only a little. Seriously, I am the victim here, and the State of CT has control. I want to write to the State Commissioners Office about this bureaucracy going on at family violence services. I have no rights to advocate that I don't want this man punished for what he did. This is why they are punishing me. Who is to say that if he dumps me, he will go out with another woman, which he won't, but lets say he does, and hit the fuck out her, which he won't, because he was not in control at the time he did what he did? They are just going to punish him more and just stick another protective order. It's just ridiculous and it's only a feel good law for them these protective orders for the victims. I can see if the victim actually needs and wants it. Yes I can totally see that.
Most of the time Victims are not pressured and people that I have spoken to outside that family violence class are going through hell, because the other side, spouse or husband is hold their kids or house or whatever under them as a weapon. They aren't able to see them. Now ask me this who is this helping? Not the victims, yes it gives them a lot of vindictive power, but I thought these classes were supposed to help the person who did the act of violence?
And I do not think they are. Not when they have all this background crap going on. I think if they had the protection order lifted and the spouse supported them in ways like I do with my boyfriend, then maybe it would be better. It's just bullshit. Utter bullshit.