You can trust me Abad. I don't lie to you. I don't steal from you. Aside from the bodyshot incident, I have never cheated on you (as your more strict definition than my own would define the word). I have never accessed your email, websites, or phone logs without your prior consent and approval; in fact I have never done that at all. I am a very trustworthy individual. When I promise you something I stick to my word; even if the promise is something very difficult for me to make, I still stand by it and I continue to stand by you and by us.
Even with the above all being true, if you still feel that you cannot trust me, then I offer you this as comfort (since you can't seem to tell me how else to comfort you right now in your time of uncertainty)...
I will continue to take actions to correct the communication flaws that I know that I have, for this is where I think the problem may exist. As you know, communication is a big issue for me, and it is something that I have been working on ever since we began dating.
I can only do so much on my own though. You have insight in to my flaws that I do not Abad, since it is hard to really see one's self from another's perspective. Also, since you feel that you can not trust me, I need you to help me explore way in which I can make you feel more confident in me as a mate and in us as a couple.
So... It'd be really nice to have your support here honey. I need to have your input during the process of learning how best to communicate with you, and how best to make our relationship one that is healthy and strong. I can't do it all on my own.
We can do this baby. We can. Together.
Don't say "goodbye" Abad. Instead say:
"Okay, listen...I want to be with you Becky. I want to trust you. I want to believe that we can have a healthy and strong relationship together like you say. But, I understand that in order for that to happen, in order for me to trust you and to believe in our future together as husband and wife, I know that we need help. We can't do this on our own, for if we could, we wouldn't keep hitting these roadblocks on our path to a future together.
I don't want to live without you, but I don't like living with you the way things are. I don't want to give up hope though. So, I have thought about it a lot; I've done a lot of soul searching and thought a lot about what I want. And, I am willing to do whatever it takes Becky, just like you are telling me that you are willing to do whatever it takes on your end to ensure a happy, healthy, loving future with me.
We will get help together, because we both not only love each other and want a future together, but because we are meant to have a future together. You've told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to you, and I believed you Becky. And I have told you that you are not like all the other people who've come and gone throughout my past, and I was being honest with you and myself when I said that. I think that that shows that there is a possibility to trust you and a possibility that things can work.
Let's get help together so that this is all more than just a possibility though. I've told you before that words are fine, but there needs to be action behind it all. Let's make it a reality...let's make us and our relationship a strong one."
Please Abad. I can't give up like I've done in the past. You are different. We are different. We can get through this...together.
I love you, and I am sorry if you feel that you cannot trust me. I take steps to ensure that you can trust me, so it really bugs me that you'd ignore all the positives like you are. You can trust me Abad. Really, you can.
I am a good person and I am good for you. You are a good person and you are good for me. I've never connected with anyone else like I have connected with you. I don't want to be with anyone else anymore. I want you. I want us.
Even with the above all being true, if you still feel that you cannot trust me, then I offer you this as comfort (since you can't seem to tell me how else to comfort you right now in your time of uncertainty)...
I will continue to take actions to correct the communication flaws that I know that I have, for this is where I think the problem may exist. As you know, communication is a big issue for me, and it is something that I have been working on ever since we began dating.
I can only do so much on my own though. You have insight in to my flaws that I do not Abad, since it is hard to really see one's self from another's perspective. Also, since you feel that you can not trust me, I need you to help me explore way in which I can make you feel more confident in me as a mate and in us as a couple.
So... It'd be really nice to have your support here honey. I need to have your input during the process of learning how best to communicate with you, and how best to make our relationship one that is healthy and strong. I can't do it all on my own.
We can do this baby. We can. Together.
Don't say "goodbye" Abad. Instead say:
"Okay, listen...I want to be with you Becky. I want to trust you. I want to believe that we can have a healthy and strong relationship together like you say. But, I understand that in order for that to happen, in order for me to trust you and to believe in our future together as husband and wife, I know that we need help. We can't do this on our own, for if we could, we wouldn't keep hitting these roadblocks on our path to a future together.
I don't want to live without you, but I don't like living with you the way things are. I don't want to give up hope though. So, I have thought about it a lot; I've done a lot of soul searching and thought a lot about what I want. And, I am willing to do whatever it takes Becky, just like you are telling me that you are willing to do whatever it takes on your end to ensure a happy, healthy, loving future with me.
We will get help together, because we both not only love each other and want a future together, but because we are meant to have a future together. You've told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to you, and I believed you Becky. And I have told you that you are not like all the other people who've come and gone throughout my past, and I was being honest with you and myself when I said that. I think that that shows that there is a possibility to trust you and a possibility that things can work.
Let's get help together so that this is all more than just a possibility though. I've told you before that words are fine, but there needs to be action behind it all. Let's make it a reality...let's make us and our relationship a strong one."
Please Abad. I can't give up like I've done in the past. You are different. We are different. We can get through this...together.
I love you, and I am sorry if you feel that you cannot trust me. I take steps to ensure that you can trust me, so it really bugs me that you'd ignore all the positives like you are. You can trust me Abad. Really, you can.
I am a good person and I am good for you. You are a good person and you are good for me. I've never connected with anyone else like I have connected with you. I don't want to be with anyone else anymore. I want you. I want us.
Please, tell me you want the same.
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