So, when is it ok to hit?

May 31, 2011 21:49


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galacticchick June 1 2011, 00:00:36 UTC
There is a vast difference between restraining a violent child and restraining a violent adult; in the case of a child there are many alternatives than fighting fire with fire because children generally are behaving this way as a result of extreme trauma combined with little impulse control (generally also caused by trauma) and this can be worked with. Adults in the same space are not so easily reasoned with or managed and sometimes the decision must be made regarding the best interests of all concerned.

Having said that, this diagram is actually about obedience and hitting a child in order to make them obey simply because they are child and the one demanding obedience is an adult. It's a diagram that shows the dynamics of force over those smaller and weaker than the adult and how most adults choose to rationalise the use of that force by calling it discipline: whatever color you wish to try and paint it there is absolutely no philosophical difference here between the use of force to dominate small children into compliance and the use of force in the shape of the military to dominate societies into compliance. Both also get the same result- brewing rebellion and uprising, to one degree or another.

Power is very, very different from force and is rarely exercised in any direction but the self. Force is aimed everywhere because of the fundamental absence of true power. Example- tai chi master who has no need to go about demonstrating their mastery and will use only the means necessary to diffuse a volatile situation vs the empty and without power wankers that get guns, threaten people with them, gun down the unarmed, the small, the helpless, the bystander while they indulge in a display of just how weak and without power they actually are. Force and power are absolutely confused in our society- those that use force/manipulation/domination/coercion have no innate power.

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stephenp June 1 2011, 02:08:32 UTC
That's beautiful and true and I'm going to share it with somebody right now.

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