i am so sorry about ur father's death. i can't imagine ur huge loss. i hope u r taking some time off. if not, i hope u r holding up ok.
even tho ur dad had a military background, he seemed like a gentle man and gentleman when i met him few years back.
i'm so glad ur family from away and near were able to be with ur dad.
i wish u could have kept all ur dad's clothes.
i think it's lovely u scattered his ashes at his favorite place...i think i want to be cremated myself.
i would love to cook for u sometime when u're ready to hang out.
just name the nite and come over. invite whoever u want. junior, ur sister, mom, etc.
lemme know if u have anything in mind u'd like to eat.
or maybe u just want a bunch of desserts. i've been baking so down for practicing new recipes.
my grandma passed from cancer when i was 15.
from the time she found out about her colon cancer, she was around for a year or so.
the day she died, i found out from my mother that she wasn't my real biological grandma.
that was a stinker bc i was so close to her. even closer to her than my mom at the time bc she raised us and was maternal towards my sister n i...
my mom was an absentee mom. more like a spoiled older sister diva for a long time.
i think u were lucky to have lived with ur parents as an adult. i know it can be annoying but not a lot of us get to...i guess it's not american tradition, if u will.
u probably know more about ur dad than the average early 30 something year old in this country as u lived with ur dad into ur 30s.
u don't really get to know someone until u live with them like a roommate.
u know all his likes and dislikes. those little intimate things r what make us up.
i'd love to hear about ur dad.
every korean family was basically poor bc of the war.
my mom had it opposite tho. her dad was an self-educated entrepreneur. made big bucks and she grew up rich (tailored clothes, white rice all the time, servants who cleaned after u) but once she was an adult, they lost their family fortune. i think that's even worse in a way. u get bitter that way and feel entitled to a better life, which doesn't and didn't happen.
my dad grew up poor. he talks about it when he's drunk. how he ate rice mixed in bacon grease they collected from the army's leftovers. i hope sebastian hears all his stories in korean and understands them. those stories, tho unglamorous like ur dad's newspaper in shoe holes story, r pearls. family treasures.
sounds like u had a good father. i can tell bc u have so much love for him. more than loathing.
i think it's hard to be intimate with korean father's of our father's generation. i hope our generation does it differently so our children can get as connected to us as possible. the adult lays the rules.
but i think our father's generation worked the hardest. i don't think i have the same work ethic as my dad. i'm more like my mom the artist. so is my sister.
u r 'head of the lee household' now...in biblical terms and korean old school terms. how does that feel?
i don't believe in patriarchies but just saying. :)
I'll take you up on your offer for a home cooked meal.
Believe me I had my own share of daddy issues and it's just recent that I've started to frame my dad in a different light. Those last few weeks/days helped a lot.
i am so sorry about ur father's death. i can't imagine ur huge loss. i hope u r taking some time off. if not, i hope u r holding up ok.
even tho ur dad had a military background, he seemed like a gentle man and gentleman when i met him few years back.
i'm so glad ur family from away and near were able to be with ur dad.
i wish u could have kept all ur dad's clothes.
i think it's lovely u scattered his ashes at his favorite place...i think i want to be cremated myself.
i would love to cook for u sometime when u're ready to hang out.
just name the nite and come over. invite whoever u want. junior, ur sister, mom, etc.
lemme know if u have anything in mind u'd like to eat.
or maybe u just want a bunch of desserts. i've been baking so down for practicing new recipes.
my grandma passed from cancer when i was 15.
from the time she found out about her colon cancer, she was around for a year or so.
the day she died, i found out from my mother that she wasn't my real biological grandma.
that was a stinker bc i was so close to her. even closer to her than my mom at the time bc she raised us and was maternal towards my sister n i...
my mom was an absentee mom. more like a spoiled older sister diva for a long time.
i think u were lucky to have lived with ur parents as an adult. i know it can be annoying but not a lot of us get to...i guess it's not american tradition, if u will.
u probably know more about ur dad than the average early 30 something year old in this country as u lived with ur dad into ur 30s.
u don't really get to know someone until u live with them like a roommate.
u know all his likes and dislikes. those little intimate things r what make us up.
i'd love to hear about ur dad.
every korean family was basically poor bc of the war.
my mom had it opposite tho. her dad was an self-educated entrepreneur. made big bucks and she grew up rich (tailored clothes, white rice all the time, servants who cleaned after u) but once she was an adult, they lost their family fortune. i think that's even worse in a way. u get bitter that way and feel entitled to a better life, which doesn't and didn't happen.
my dad grew up poor. he talks about it when he's drunk. how he ate rice mixed in bacon grease they collected from the army's leftovers. i hope sebastian hears all his stories in korean and understands them. those stories, tho unglamorous like ur dad's newspaper in shoe holes story, r pearls. family treasures.
sounds like u had a good father. i can tell bc u have so much love for him. more than loathing.
i think it's hard to be intimate with korean father's of our father's generation. i hope our generation does it differently so our children can get as connected to us as possible. the adult lays the rules.
but i think our father's generation worked the hardest. i don't think i have the same work ethic as my dad. i'm more like my mom the artist. so is my sister.
u r 'head of the lee household' now...in biblical terms and korean old school terms. how does that feel?
i don't believe in patriarchies but just saying. :)
lemme know when u want that home cooked meal.
happy monday.
we r off to barnes & nobles storytelling.
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Believe me I had my own share of daddy issues and it's just recent that I've started to frame my dad in a different light. Those last few weeks/days helped a lot.
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