Trigger warning! This post deals with the AR in SR as well as other examples of questionable consent during S6.
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the AR to consent issues in S6, in general. This post is gonna lay out the instances of questionable consent in the Buffy/Spike relationship of S6. Some of these examples are often-discussed by fans. Some aren't. I want to try to
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As for the AR. I read opinions on that one. It's something worth a lot of thought and is a multi-layered subject. But it's such a minefield that I usually just read without comment.
*edited because a minefield and a mindfield wouldn't be the same thing...
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*edited because a minefield and a mindfield wouldn't be the same thing...
lol!
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Yep. This is what I get from it too. It seems to me like a commentary on rape culture. On the conflation of seduction and rape. And on the fact that those two things are so thoroughly conflated by rape culture that even women--or the person being seduced/potentially raped--has trouble telling them apart.
It's pretty disturbing.
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For one, the Wrecked and Gone scenes are just hot. Really, I find them hot, questionable consent an all. And that's a little fucked up. The AR is decidedly not hot, but when you look at the basic elements of Spike's behavior, it's similar.
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In "Older and Far Away," Spike says to Buffy, "I'll let you blow out my candles," which implies (in my opinion) that it was more of a treat for her than him. In addition to that, Spike's a romantic--I don't think that his request of something more included being mounted with no warning. With the exclusion of the Boxer Rebellion, never before do we see Spike have sex or make love any place other than a bedroom, and we don't see him initiate any fights beforehand as well.
Therefore, I think it's safe to say that at the very least, it was sexual assault.
I have other thoughts percolating on this (or rather, additional thoughts...), but I have yet to properly expound upon them.
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I sort of think this was just him being a smart ass and seizing on the *blowing* birthday trope. Because, ya know, it was Buffy's birthday. So she was gonna be blowing out candles. If anything, I think it shows that he's generally eager for fellatio. I mean, however jokingly, he's asking for it.
In addition to that, Spike's a romantic--I don't think that his request of something more included being mounted with no warning.
And--I really am sorry to be disagreeable--but I don't agree with this either. Spike had thrown out his romantic tendencies after Tabula Rasa. When Buffy wasn't responding to his sensitivity, he busted out all his jerkiest moves, including calling her names (a tease), telling her she had no one but him, implying that he was only with her because of the status of screwing a slayer, and cramming his hand up her skirt despite her protests. These aren't the moves of *romantic* Spike.
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But to say that he'll "let" her do it--you don't find that phrasing to be odd? Why not "You can blow out my candles"? Why does he have to give her permission to do so? He's not asking her to do it as a favor--he's saying that she is allowed to do so. If he wanted to make an innuendo birthday joke, why not offer to eat her cake or something? Wouldn't that make more sense?
Spike had thrown out his romantic tendencies after Tabula Rasa. When Buffy wasn't responding to his sensitivity, he busted out all his jerkiest moves, including calling her names (a tease), telling her she had no one but him, implying that he was only with her because of the status of screwing a slayer, and cramming his hand up her skirt despite her protests. These aren't the moves of *romantic* Spike. I think that depends on one's assessment of the situation. Here's mine ( ... )
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I don't see it. Spike's idea of "romance" tends to involve lots of rope, beating each other up, and general slaughter... and as much kinky sex as possible.
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He's been around awhile. I suspect he has some notion of just how treacherous those waters are. (Though we don't really see him depicted as a sexually adventurous guy before Buffy, as Angelus clearly was, so I'm assuming his knowledge of edgy sexual practices with no actual evidence. I just like to think it of him. What? Like I'm the only one?)
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Making him stop is something he's pretty confident she can do, based on years of previous dealings.
Indeed, though again, that goes back to her mental state at the time. Buffy's obviously able to stop him as she did so in SR. However, that was after she'd started on the upswing from her depression. Prior to that, I don't know if she was in the right mental place to handle what was going on. Her phrasing, especially, in DT about how she "lets" Spike do those things to her implies a lot about how unsure her own consent was during that time.
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Yeah. I think the flouting of that is what they were objecting to. It makes the whole undertaking look really irresponsible. Which it was.
Buffy's mental state is obviously the key thing here. Is she too disabled to consent? I don't like to think so, because it implies that depressed people shouldn't be allowed to determine their life choices. IMO, Spike is trying to help her, inexpertly, and leaving openings for her to call the shots. She doesn't take them, but it's hard (for us or for Spike) to tell if it's because she doesn't want to or simply can't. As you say in the post.
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For Buffy's part, it's very difficult for us to determine what was going on in her head during those incidents. Hell, I don't even think she knows. Personally, I'd say she'd started deferring to carnal instinct and saying, "Fuck you" to her super-ego.
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Though it obviously wasn't successful in gaining her sympathy from the entire viewing audience.
Well, it was kind of hard to feel a whole lot of sympathy for Buffy when she'd just beat Spike all to hell in an alley a few episodes before.
This is one of the reasons I loathe SR.
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Eh, I managed to feel sympathy for her immediately after said scene, so my sympathy was definitely still with her in SR. Not that hard.
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