What the fuck is one supposed to say there? Well, okay, I'm sure other peeps who don't suck at relationships can jump in here and tell me exactly what, but I don't care. I'm with Buffy.
THANK YOU. I mean, I get that it's not the *perfect* thing to say--but jeesh. I don't understand why people want something from her that isn't her, ya know? To me, that would've cheapened it. All of it. If the writers had had her pledge her life and love to him right then and there, it would've cheapened the last 3 seasons of growing toward something together--and the struggle and pain that the growth caused. And it would've cheapened the night before. And it would've cheapened what was to come. Go real or go home, that's my motto.
You also mentioned 'Intervention' in one of these numerous comments, which leads me to remember my completely baffled initial reaction at Buffy saying that she thought she was losing her ability to love.
See. I understood where she was coming from there--I knew she was WRONG--but I got why she thought she was losing her ability to love. My problem was that because I so clearly saw her POV, I wasn't seeing that all the slayer stuff WAS love. I was looking at it, like she does, as if it's something to be overcome--to remain human and loving in spite of being the slayer--not being the slayer as a form of love (which is now my official stance).
Yeah, I guess I can tolerate people who don't think she loved him--but not the "incapable of love" people. It just makes me want to sob, thinking that people believe someone so completely loving as Buffy is incapable love. It makes me sad because it's like she's right. No matter what she does--no matter how many love languages she learns and uses--it's never enough.
Yesssss. And good God do I hate mutual declarations of ~*true love*~. Get your cheap declarations off my show.
I understood where she was coming from there--I knew she was WRONG--but I got why she thought she was losing her ability to love.
Yes, I got why she'd say as much too. But stepping outside her pov for a sec - whyyyyy? That's something I'd expect S5 Angel, or S3 Faith, to say. Maybe I just equate 'losing ability to love' with moral depravity. Or at least, calculated attempts to alienate oneself from others. Buffy simply hadn't done anything wrong. So I thought she was being way too harsh on herself.
to remain human and loving in spite of being the slayer--not being the slayer as a form of love
Well, being the Slayer does entail causing a lot of death. Death of malevolent beings, but still. I totally get how that would darken a person's sooooul.
It makes me sad because it's like she's right. No matter what she does--no matter how many love languages she learns and uses--it's never enough.
THANK YOU. I mean, I get that it's not the *perfect* thing to say--but jeesh. I don't understand why people want something from her that isn't her, ya know? To me, that would've cheapened it. All of it. If the writers had had her pledge her life and love to him right then and there, it would've cheapened the last 3 seasons of growing toward something together--and the struggle and pain that the growth caused. And it would've cheapened the night before. And it would've cheapened what was to come. Go real or go home, that's my motto.
You also mentioned 'Intervention' in one of these numerous comments, which leads me to remember my completely baffled initial reaction at Buffy saying that she thought she was losing her ability to love.
See. I understood where she was coming from there--I knew she was WRONG--but I got why she thought she was losing her ability to love. My problem was that because I so clearly saw her POV, I wasn't seeing that all the slayer stuff WAS love. I was looking at it, like she does, as if it's something to be overcome--to remain human and loving in spite of being the slayer--not being the slayer as a form of love (which is now my official stance).
Yeah, I guess I can tolerate people who don't think she loved him--but not the "incapable of love" people. It just makes me want to sob, thinking that people believe someone so completely loving as Buffy is incapable love. It makes me sad because it's like she's right. No matter what she does--no matter how many love languages she learns and uses--it's never enough.
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Yesssss. And good God do I hate mutual declarations of ~*true love*~. Get your cheap declarations off my show.
I understood where she was coming from there--I knew she was WRONG--but I got why she thought she was losing her ability to love.
Yes, I got why she'd say as much too. But stepping outside her pov for a sec - whyyyyy? That's something I'd expect S5 Angel, or S3 Faith, to say. Maybe I just equate 'losing ability to love' with moral depravity. Or at least, calculated attempts to alienate oneself from others. Buffy simply hadn't done anything wrong. So I thought she was being way too harsh on herself.
to remain human and loving in spite of being the slayer--not being the slayer as a form of love
Well, being the Slayer does entail causing a lot of death. Death of malevolent beings, but still. I totally get how that would darken a person's sooooul.
It makes me sad because it's like she's right. No matter what she does--no matter how many love languages she learns and uses--it's never enough.
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