Slight change in LJ posting style notice ;~)

[gabiwags]

I have decided not to use any more filters except when using it as a pm. I'm telling you all this because I want everyone to be aware that if you post to my journal everyone can see it - bwahaaahhaaaaaa

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[katzedecimal]

My journals aren't message boards, chats or forums - they're my journals. They're *my* posting place, and others can view or not view as they choose. If they have a problem with something I've said, then they should reconsider a) why they're reading my journal and b) having me as a friend.

Sometimes, as a courtesy only, I'll flag certain stuff so others aren't taken by surprise by it (such as stuff mentioning spellcrafting or suicide). Again, as a courtesy, I put my religious/spiritual stuff behind lj-cuts, so that a) peoples' friends lists don't get totally scrolled off the yin-yang, and b) friends of friends, curious as to who their friends' friends are (confused yet?), who don't know what my LJ is for, won't have it in their faces.

These are courtesies because I was taught manners, but filtering (other than straight-on friends-only) often seems to me to be divisive. But I guess that's because I feel that friendship, like love, is an "all or nothing" deal -- if I choose to call you my friend, I am prepared to accept *all* of you, perks and shortcomings, political and/or religious views, all of it. And if I can't take it, I will quit the relationship cleanly, not put shackles around it. You're perfectly fine the way you are; so am I. If we can't get along, its too bad, but it doesn't mean that either of us is inherantly wrong - it just means we're two different, too different, people.

That's why I don't use any filters. If you are my friend, then you get all of me. If *you* choose to look away from certain aspects of my life, then that is *your* choice. I'll offer you the courtesy of alerting you to those aspects, but I won't make the choice for you.

I don't disapprove of others' feelings for why they choose to filter. They often see it as a courtesy themselves, keeping their friends from seeing thoughts and opinions that will cause their bloodpressure to skyrocket. I just won't do it that way, that's all. I just feel that everybody on my Friends list is old enough and mature enough to make their own decisions.

[gabiwags]

and is so often the case ... your are a huge part of my inspiration ;~).

So, Whaddaya think of Mel's cute little butt o.0 ...g