I really think bisexual fits me better than pansexual... not because I think there's anything *wrong* with falling outside the two "traditional" types of gender identity, I've also never been attracted to one. I know trans people (including a pretty close ftm friend) and I don't find them repulsive or anything, so I don't think it's a prejudice problem, but... it's kind of like Asians. Nothing wrong with it, I'm not into it, yeah? I don't particularly like butch girls, either.
No, you've never struck me as an exceptionally fem sort of person, but again the majority of PEOPLE are straight, and I think it's a natural assumption. I never find there to be malice in it, like you sometimes encounter when people assume someone to be gay-- finding you straight is kind of like saying they thought you were normal, which may or may not be a compliment depending on your point of view but it certainly isn't an insult by and large. (Although I did have a gay man go strangely OVER THE MOON on me when he found out I liked girls, although he isn't particularly bright so I'm not sure he ever really grasped that I also like boys in an about 60/40 ratio.)
I mean, I do think it varies. It's kind of repugnant to me though when people act like it's really cool to be open to homosexual experience, so you get applauded for being different. Please shut up, I just want to live my life. I'm not asking for a medal for being me! I'd rather people reject me than celebrate me, I think, but that's possibly partly due to my own insecurities. At least when someone hates me for being bisexual, I have the benefit of getting to term them closed-minded bigots. The other thing, that's more insidious.
DOCTOR. (Did you see Fright Night? David Tennant was the most amazing hilarious thing and Remy and Katie squealed the whole time about how cute he was but I'm, like, not attracted to him at all and was totally focused on Anton Yelchin with whom I have been in love for YEARS, because I like tiny frail pale boys, apparently.)
Haha, were you just using the Asian example because you're talking to me? ;) Although that's an entirely different topic, it does bug me when people say I have an Asian fetish. It's not a fetish, it's just a preference. Difference. AHEM. Ranting aside, yeah, I perfectly understand what you mean.
But you know, if you discuss how much you like one sex compared to the other, people tend to then start saying that you're just in the closet and really a big old lesbian. lol I've had that happen to me once anyways just because while I find most bisexuals tend to be more attracted to the opposite sex than their own, I am much more attracted to feminine aesthetics. Like even on the more masculine dudes I like, the things I like about them most physically tend to be the more feminine aspects than anything else. So excluding all other factors except what's sexually attractive, I tend to drift more towards girls than guys. And that makes me feel like such an outlier because most bisexuals are 60/40 with their opposite sex being their 60.
I take a very laid back attitude towards my sexuality and the sexuality of others, so I've never really had anybody act like that towards me. Thank God though because I'm pretty sure that'd drive me insane. I do know of someone who shall not be named because while I don't think she reads LJ & I'm certain you're not friends with her on here, I don't want to get in trouble, but it drives me insane how she acts like being gay is a badge of courage or something. Like she has to put so much emphasis on the words "my girlfriend" that wouldn't be there if it was a boyfriend and therefore not a big deal and not ~edgy~. That right there drives me bananas.
No, I haven't seen it. I've been too busy being a hermit and guzzling down a ridiculous amount of Doctor Who & Supernatural & The Walking Dead to have time for movies as of late. But it's so on the list because it's such a ridiculous looking movie that I must see it because of reasons.
I'm 60/40 toward girls too! But I'm so not aggressive it's easier to date boys. Like. I don't know. Even timid boys (the ones I like best) are more likely to ask me out than the girls I like, even controlling for orientation and attraction. But yeah. I'm definitely attracted to guys more often than due to chance, so it isn't that I'm a lesbian. I just like girls WHY IS THAT SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND.
No, you've never struck me as an exceptionally fem sort of person, but again the majority of PEOPLE are straight, and I think it's a natural assumption. I never find there to be malice in it, like you sometimes encounter when people assume someone to be gay-- finding you straight is kind of like saying they thought you were normal, which may or may not be a compliment depending on your point of view but it certainly isn't an insult by and large. (Although I did have a gay man go strangely OVER THE MOON on me when he found out I liked girls, although he isn't particularly bright so I'm not sure he ever really grasped that I also like boys in an about 60/40 ratio.)
I mean, I do think it varies. It's kind of repugnant to me though when people act like it's really cool to be open to homosexual experience, so you get applauded for being different. Please shut up, I just want to live my life. I'm not asking for a medal for being me! I'd rather people reject me than celebrate me, I think, but that's possibly partly due to my own insecurities. At least when someone hates me for being bisexual, I have the benefit of getting to term them closed-minded bigots. The other thing, that's more insidious.
DOCTOR. (Did you see Fright Night? David Tennant was the most amazing hilarious thing and Remy and Katie squealed the whole time about how cute he was but I'm, like, not attracted to him at all and was totally focused on Anton Yelchin with whom I have been in love for YEARS, because I like tiny frail pale boys, apparently.)
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But you know, if you discuss how much you like one sex compared to the other, people tend to then start saying that you're just in the closet and really a big old lesbian. lol I've had that happen to me once anyways just because while I find most bisexuals tend to be more attracted to the opposite sex than their own, I am much more attracted to feminine aesthetics. Like even on the more masculine dudes I like, the things I like about them most physically tend to be the more feminine aspects than anything else. So excluding all other factors except what's sexually attractive, I tend to drift more towards girls than guys. And that makes me feel like such an outlier because most bisexuals are 60/40 with their opposite sex being their 60.
I take a very laid back attitude towards my sexuality and the sexuality of others, so I've never really had anybody act like that towards me. Thank God though because I'm pretty sure that'd drive me insane. I do know of someone who shall not be named because while I don't think she reads LJ & I'm certain you're not friends with her on here, I don't want to get in trouble, but it drives me insane how she acts like being gay is a badge of courage or something. Like she has to put so much emphasis on the words "my girlfriend" that wouldn't be there if it was a boyfriend and therefore not a big deal and not ~edgy~. That right there drives me bananas.
No, I haven't seen it. I've been too busy being a hermit and guzzling down a ridiculous amount of Doctor Who & Supernatural & The Walking Dead to have time for movies as of late. But it's so on the list because it's such a ridiculous looking movie that I must see it because of reasons.
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