(Meme - Day 3) 8 Qualities I value in Others
1) Honesty, I may not like what you have to say but I'll trust and respect you for saying it.
2) Kindness, The world is an ugly enough place as it is at times and a little care and compassion for people goes a long way.
3) Perspective, I always try to see things from all sides and I don't always succeed. Over the years I've met people who are able to take a real step back and approch things in this fashion and it's this clarity that always suprises me. I find this are very rarely black and white these days.
4) Loyalty, This one is in the position it is due to the fact it goes without saying and I didn't even think about it until halfway down the list. Loyalty isn't blind though, it's tempered by other traits. I believe in being loyal but if you cheat on your partner don't expect me to lie for you or tell you its not your faultor pander to your need to justify bad actions. This is part of being a friend (a real friend not a fair weather friend) its combination of Loyalty, Honesty, perspective and compassion. Its true of most traits its not about one or two but how they all combine together to make a whole person.
5) Justice, As we've seen in films, books and comics and Justice and the law are two different things. Again justice isn't a simple concept, there are a wide range of situations that have to be judged aqainst and the range is vast for Eg: Murder against forrgetting to return a library book and a sense of justice tempered by wisdom is a good trait.
6) Forgivness, I do struggle with this one, some say its experience others say if the nature of Glaswegians that once you earn their ire your forever listed in the book with a black mark. I think these days I am just so short on paitence for people I used to have so much forgiveness. As such people who have this trait still I find I respect even more because somehow they have managed to get through life and still be able to have this trait is impressive.
7) Listening, In my experience Listening isn't as easy as it seems. I have always seemed to have 'That face' that says tell me your problems. Listening is just that letting people talk because most people resolve their own issues if they can't talk them through for long enough. Occassionally you have to throw in something to keep them talking if the stumble or start to struggle but essentially you're there to listen, offer encoragement and most of all keep them talking. Its not easy to listen and not have a conversation, I find myself occassionlly wandering into conversation and usually catch myself and bring it back. But its a valuable skill that can help people find a reasonable degree of clarity and peace with things and is frustrating when you can't find someone who will listen.
8) Humour: A sense of humour has to be amoung the best traits there are many great things in human nature but the ability to laugh together creates a bond like no other.
2) Kindness, The world is an ugly enough place as it is at times and a little care and compassion for people goes a long way.
3) Perspective, I always try to see things from all sides and I don't always succeed. Over the years I've met people who are able to take a real step back and approch things in this fashion and it's this clarity that always suprises me. I find this are very rarely black and white these days.
4) Loyalty, This one is in the position it is due to the fact it goes without saying and I didn't even think about it until halfway down the list. Loyalty isn't blind though, it's tempered by other traits. I believe in being loyal but if you cheat on your partner don't expect me to lie for you or tell you its not your faultor pander to your need to justify bad actions. This is part of being a friend (a real friend not a fair weather friend) its combination of Loyalty, Honesty, perspective and compassion. Its true of most traits its not about one or two but how they all combine together to make a whole person.
5) Justice, As we've seen in films, books and comics and Justice and the law are two different things. Again justice isn't a simple concept, there are a wide range of situations that have to be judged aqainst and the range is vast for Eg: Murder against forrgetting to return a library book and a sense of justice tempered by wisdom is a good trait.
6) Forgivness, I do struggle with this one, some say its experience others say if the nature of Glaswegians that once you earn their ire your forever listed in the book with a black mark. I think these days I am just so short on paitence for people I used to have so much forgiveness. As such people who have this trait still I find I respect even more because somehow they have managed to get through life and still be able to have this trait is impressive.
7) Listening, In my experience Listening isn't as easy as it seems. I have always seemed to have 'That face' that says tell me your problems. Listening is just that letting people talk because most people resolve their own issues if they can't talk them through for long enough. Occassionally you have to throw in something to keep them talking if the stumble or start to struggle but essentially you're there to listen, offer encoragement and most of all keep them talking. Its not easy to listen and not have a conversation, I find myself occassionlly wandering into conversation and usually catch myself and bring it back. But its a valuable skill that can help people find a reasonable degree of clarity and peace with things and is frustrating when you can't find someone who will listen.
8) Humour: A sense of humour has to be amoung the best traits there are many great things in human nature but the ability to laugh together creates a bond like no other.