seriously like if it's ~born that way~ then you better fucking know which way or it doesn't count???? like..../// (i have grown to really despise lady gaga just fyi. also macklemore.)
I think for our particular group (well I use the term loosely we're not much of a ~group~ just kind of people who know each other and are friendly off and on...?) it's a bit different because literally every lesbian in the group is a goldstar and growing up I ONLY knew goldstars of either sex. But there were only like... 4 of them... we didn't have stuff like gay/straight alliances or w/e, mostly LGBT people were presumed not to exist at all; I was lucky to make some gay friends who supported me and bullying and such was pretty much a non-issue, like, thinking back to it now and looking at the new developments in Russia, I was RIDICULOUSLY lucky, god. And like...anyway, goldstars. I didn't think it was okay for me to lay claim to something like "being gay" unless I was a goldstar, and I was never going to be that even if I wanted to because I didn't get the option of consenting for my first time. I think one of the pivotal moments for me was actually thanks to a fandomer -- when I met her back in like... 2005 (i think) she was a lesbian, super out and proud, but then she fell out of touch for a while and when she came back briefly, she was married to a dude and preg (and no one was surprised more than her, hahaha :D). And I thought wow well if goldstars can go the other way then maybe it's okay? It kind of escalated from there, you know the rest. But anyway a lot of this is actually thanks to fandom because it helped me out of "all my best friends are male and i like it that way" to surrounding myself entirely with women. Because that was really all I ever wanted, gay or no gay.
ANYWAY WOW I TYPED YOU AN ESSAY AGAIN WTF YES I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE SPELL IT LIKE THE THIRD OPTION IT DRIVES ME FUCKING BATTY ISN'T IT LIKE FRENCH OR SOME SHIT
lol right like it's this idea that if it's not a choice then how do you not just KNOW?? and that argument is so often coming from straight people who don't understand what a privilege it is to have their sexuality being CONSTANTLY AFFIRMED in EVERY SINGLE WAY EVERY DAY OF THEIR LIVES
ahhh yeah i can see that. i mean i am also a gold star lesbian BUT that doesn't mean i didn't think i was straight (and then bi) for a while, i just never boned a dude and then i figured it out lol. but i'm glad your non-shitty friends AND fandom could help make sense of that! :D i straight up don't understand people who don't want to surround themselves with women tbh, this is including my male friends like pretty much all the males i know and love have primarily a female friends group lol
SORRY LATEST REPLIER those yogurt people are WEIRD
I think for our particular group (well I use the term loosely we're not much of a ~group~ just kind of people who know each other and are friendly off and on...?) it's a bit different because literally every lesbian in the group is a goldstar and growing up I ONLY knew goldstars of either sex. But there were only like... 4 of them... we didn't have stuff like gay/straight alliances or w/e, mostly LGBT people were presumed not to exist at all; I was lucky to make some gay friends who supported me and bullying and such was pretty much a non-issue, like, thinking back to it now and looking at the new developments in Russia, I was RIDICULOUSLY lucky, god. And like...anyway, goldstars. I didn't think it was okay for me to lay claim to something like "being gay" unless I was a goldstar, and I was never going to be that even if I wanted to because I didn't get the option of consenting for my first time. I think one of the pivotal moments for me was actually thanks to a fandomer -- when I met her back in like... 2005 (i think) she was a lesbian, super out and proud, but then she fell out of touch for a while and when she came back briefly, she was married to a dude and preg (and no one was surprised more than her, hahaha :D). And I thought wow well if goldstars can go the other way then maybe it's okay? It kind of escalated from there, you know the rest. But anyway a lot of this is actually thanks to fandom because it helped me out of "all my best friends are male and i like it that way" to surrounding myself entirely with women. Because that was really all I ever wanted, gay or no gay.
ANYWAY WOW I TYPED YOU AN ESSAY AGAIN WTF YES I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE SPELL IT LIKE THE THIRD OPTION IT DRIVES ME FUCKING BATTY ISN'T IT LIKE FRENCH OR SOME SHIT
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ahhh yeah i can see that. i mean i am also a gold star lesbian BUT that doesn't mean i didn't think i was straight (and then bi) for a while, i just never boned a dude and then i figured it out lol. but i'm glad your non-shitty friends AND fandom could help make sense of that! :D i straight up don't understand people who don't want to surround themselves with women tbh, this is including my male friends like pretty much all the males i know and love have primarily a female friends group lol
SORRY LATEST REPLIER those yogurt people are WEIRD
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