Resolution to a conflict

Jul 19, 2004 23:29

"I'm going to college to get a degree, not a marriage liscense ( Read more... )

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ducey_the_jew July 19 2004, 23:49:20 UTC
Huh. And I always thought that being happy and making those closest to you was god's work. Perhaps I was cruelly misinformed.

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funnylilkids July 20 2004, 04:56:41 UTC
Oh you most certainly were not... I still intend to be happy... as for making people happy... well I believe people are either happy or they're not... I can't make someone happy.. I can, perhaps, be the cause of their joy.. or distract them from their pain. I still plan on being there for my friends and loving them dearly... just as friends and that's the end of it.

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ducey_the_jew July 20 2004, 11:33:54 UTC
Yeah, I guess I'm of the opinion that if you meet the right person, or someone who might be the right person, you should pursue it. The problem with many people is that they go to college and hunt for someone, trying to make them into the right person with their overzealousness. Did that make any sense?

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funnylilkids July 20 2004, 13:26:42 UTC
Precisely... been there, done that... got sick of it, and stopped.

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wasting_time182 July 20 2004, 00:20:58 UTC
When I first came to college I was really shocked when so many people had the mentality of only going to college to find the person they are going to marry, or at least assume they will find that person while pursuing whatever degree they are going for. I dunno, it just never occurred to me when I came to college that that would be something of importance. I think it's dumb to assume this "meet THAT person in college, or don't meet them at all" idea.
However, and my point, is that the opposite is also true. While it's counterproductive to be constantly on the lookout for that oh-so-special someone, is it fair to totally reject the possibility?? If someone does come along, how can it be assumed that isn't God's will as well? Remember: a boyfriend is not only a romantic interest, he should also be your best friend, and can often support you and even help deepen your faith and convictions, not necessarily pull you away from them.

Lol, sorry, that turned out longer and preachier than I intended, just a thought though.

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funnylilkids July 20 2004, 05:02:45 UTC
no, its ok... that's what friends are for, I suppose to correct me when I'm wrong. It's just that, my best friend, Leo, whom I do have a crush on, I just don't see myself with... I can't imagine being with him romantically and doing what couples do, I guess... its just that he's more like a big brother.. and I respect and love him for that. Michael, whom I've madly fallen for and still do care for, for the past like 6 months and continue to do so... has made me cry a great deal... and to make a long story short, it wasn't even really his fault. I just hate what gushy emotions do to me, is all... and I'm just kinda sick of it all. I never came to college to "find someone" and certainly don't plan on marrying till atleast two or three years after med school... and since I see dating as merely a way of getting to know what you like about people and getting used to the idea of being with people, etc--in short, preparing for marriage--I just don't have the time, energy, or patience for that right now... plus what if I do find "that special ( ... )

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funnylilkids July 20 2004, 13:29:59 UTC
here! here!

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darkislandz July 21 2004, 07:32:02 UTC
your entires are incredibly boring, plus you will never accomplish any of this stuff.

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funnylilkids July 21 2004, 09:05:16 UTC
uh-huh... i don't write to entertain you anyways, so frankly I don't care.

and as for not accomplishing any of this.. riight.. you don't really know me very well, obviously... but thanks for playing

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darkislandz July 21 2004, 09:34:15 UTC
i was kidding... one question though, why don't you just live, without all these restrictions on your life? i think you're too hard on yourself

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funnylilkids July 21 2004, 15:14:11 UTC
hm... I have no problem believing that... most people think I'm too hard on myself. I believe that to be free, you sometimes have to live and play by the rules... and on occasion, break the rules.. but let's not get a head of ourselves, here. Do I truly anticipating never dating? hm.. I don't know.. I guess that will be tested when someone worth breaking the rules for comes along, i suppose.

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