Relationships are Tricky Like That
Love an be a tricky thing sometimes. I guess that's why there often seem to be problems in a relationship. It can seem really hard sometimes, especially when problems arise. The easy things is to just let it go, or finish things completely, rather than taking the time to work it out. Problem solving in itself can seem like hell, trust me I know that. Sometimes it can even be harder to go through than what the original problem was. However you learn from those experiences. I know I have.
I used to always blame myself for things, that was just the way I was. I still do it sometimes, but definately not as often. I would think that I was always the one to do something wrong, or make mistakes, or be to blame for things. But that wasn't true. There's never really one thing to blame is there? No, I don't believe so. It takes more than that.
But one way or another, sometimes mistakes are made and problems arise that have to be dealt with. The important thing is to deal with them sooner rather than later. It seems like that is the bright thing to do after all. It can take a lot of talking, and a lot of time, but what else can you do? It's what needs to be done. The important thing to remember is that everyone makes them because that's what we do, it's how we grow. What matters is how we react to these mistakes, and what we do about them. Dwelling in the past for example, is a bad thing to do. If you never let go of the past, how can you move forward? You can't.
I suppose the past will always be a part of us, whether we like it or not. But if you think about it, if the bad things in the past had never happened, would you have become the person you are now? If bad things never happened, would we really be able to enjoy the good times in life? The answer to both questions is probably not. Everything that happens to us shapes us up to be who we are meant to be.
Happiness is also an important aspect in this. As I have been told, sometimes the most painful things are what need to be done for things to be alright in the long run. Sometimes this is true. But don't just give in without trying other ways. If you do, then what will be accomplished? You'll never know if you had a chance. If you don't like how something is being done, then go change it. Being sad isn't going to get a person anywhere, or at least it didn't get me anywhere. You've got to go out there and face things.
Sometimes there is nothing you can do. Sometimes you have to sit back and let the other person figure out things for themselves. I'm sure this can be a very long, sad, and maybe even annoying process, however it is one that needs to be done. It may feel like you are just sitting on the sidelines, waiting to see what happens. But don't forget that you have other people supporting you as well, I know I am.
Just don't be too quick to throw in the towel, no matter how hopeless things may look. You never know what is going to happen next, so just look out. All you can do is have faith in the other person and the relationship in question, and hope for the best results. It can be a long and painful road, but you don't have to head down it alone. Take a few along for the ride, they won't mind.
Okay, I'm done preaching for the day. There's a lot more I could say, but I think this will do for now. Just some thoughts buzzing through my head, so I figured I'd get them down. I'm sure parts of it don't even make sense...hm.
I used to always blame myself for things, that was just the way I was. I still do it sometimes, but definately not as often. I would think that I was always the one to do something wrong, or make mistakes, or be to blame for things. But that wasn't true. There's never really one thing to blame is there? No, I don't believe so. It takes more than that.
But one way or another, sometimes mistakes are made and problems arise that have to be dealt with. The important thing is to deal with them sooner rather than later. It seems like that is the bright thing to do after all. It can take a lot of talking, and a lot of time, but what else can you do? It's what needs to be done. The important thing to remember is that everyone makes them because that's what we do, it's how we grow. What matters is how we react to these mistakes, and what we do about them. Dwelling in the past for example, is a bad thing to do. If you never let go of the past, how can you move forward? You can't.
I suppose the past will always be a part of us, whether we like it or not. But if you think about it, if the bad things in the past had never happened, would you have become the person you are now? If bad things never happened, would we really be able to enjoy the good times in life? The answer to both questions is probably not. Everything that happens to us shapes us up to be who we are meant to be.
Happiness is also an important aspect in this. As I have been told, sometimes the most painful things are what need to be done for things to be alright in the long run. Sometimes this is true. But don't just give in without trying other ways. If you do, then what will be accomplished? You'll never know if you had a chance. If you don't like how something is being done, then go change it. Being sad isn't going to get a person anywhere, or at least it didn't get me anywhere. You've got to go out there and face things.
Sometimes there is nothing you can do. Sometimes you have to sit back and let the other person figure out things for themselves. I'm sure this can be a very long, sad, and maybe even annoying process, however it is one that needs to be done. It may feel like you are just sitting on the sidelines, waiting to see what happens. But don't forget that you have other people supporting you as well, I know I am.
Just don't be too quick to throw in the towel, no matter how hopeless things may look. You never know what is going to happen next, so just look out. All you can do is have faith in the other person and the relationship in question, and hope for the best results. It can be a long and painful road, but you don't have to head down it alone. Take a few along for the ride, they won't mind.
Okay, I'm done preaching for the day. There's a lot more I could say, but I think this will do for now. Just some thoughts buzzing through my head, so I figured I'd get them down. I'm sure parts of it don't even make sense...hm.