X-Posted: for my mom
My mom, during a recent visit during my post-surgical recovery, made LEAPS and STRIDES in progress, and after waiting over 2.5 years, she starting using male pronouns. A lot. In fact, she only slipped a handful of times in her last two days here.
However, on her drive home today, she called to ask what other mothers of people like me say when they refer to our childhoods? She said it's one thing to explain what's going on to people she knows well, but to knew acquaintances and such, what should she say? She's not ready to call me 'her son,' despite the pronouns, and doesn't know what to do about the little girl from my childhood. She thought about making up a twin with my new name, and somewhere in her 20's, the daughter died. It seemed ridiculous to make up a whole new kid instead of making minor adjustments to her old stories of me.
Any suggestions? How did your parents manage this change in storytelling?
Thanks,
Milo
However, on her drive home today, she called to ask what other mothers of people like me say when they refer to our childhoods? She said it's one thing to explain what's going on to people she knows well, but to knew acquaintances and such, what should she say? She's not ready to call me 'her son,' despite the pronouns, and doesn't know what to do about the little girl from my childhood. She thought about making up a twin with my new name, and somewhere in her 20's, the daughter died. It seemed ridiculous to make up a whole new kid instead of making minor adjustments to her old stories of me.
Any suggestions? How did your parents manage this change in storytelling?
Thanks,
Milo