Masculine behaviors that are more acceptable in female-identified individuals
I've had some really weird experiences recently. I consider myself chivalrous, or a gentleman, and apparently have been coming across as fairly misogynist. Typically, especially when I was still female-identified, I always paid on the first date, and paid a fair amount later too, opened doors for my date and others compulsively, even when dating a guy. I often volunteer to carry things, and jokingly offer my arm to my date a lot. I went through a phase of pulling chairs out for people.
I've had a number of the females in my life react negatively to this recently. I still know a girl, an old room mate from high school, who wishes she could find a guy like me (no, the irony isn't lost on me, but she means a natal male who can have kids). On the other hand, my current girlfriend, an independent woman, previously lesbian identified and now somewhere along the lines of pansexual, has been "curing me of bad habits." I have to let her open the door and pay a fair amount of the time. Actually, I've received quite a few verbal ass-kickings, mostly from women, about my gender perceptions recently. I consider myself a feminist, so I'm trying to change, but I think it's all rather weird. I don't mean ay of these behaviors as a disrespect.
Just wondering, how has this been for everyone else? Are the things marked as "masculine" in female-identified persons frequently perceived differently in a male-identified individual?
I've had a number of the females in my life react negatively to this recently. I still know a girl, an old room mate from high school, who wishes she could find a guy like me (no, the irony isn't lost on me, but she means a natal male who can have kids). On the other hand, my current girlfriend, an independent woman, previously lesbian identified and now somewhere along the lines of pansexual, has been "curing me of bad habits." I have to let her open the door and pay a fair amount of the time. Actually, I've received quite a few verbal ass-kickings, mostly from women, about my gender perceptions recently. I consider myself a feminist, so I'm trying to change, but I think it's all rather weird. I don't mean ay of these behaviors as a disrespect.
Just wondering, how has this been for everyone else? Are the things marked as "masculine" in female-identified persons frequently perceived differently in a male-identified individual?