Nightmares coming true. Transphobic parents moving in.

[fm425]

My mom and step dad, plus their 2 kids are moving in. One is 4 there other just born. Being around kids really stress me out and make me super tired. I try to be nice and friendly and interactive as possible, but I really can not deal with it. To make it worse my mom always tells them "this is your big "SISTER!!!" and just tries everything she can

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[expanding_x_man]

I second the advice about going with the grandparents and going to school. Transition is not in your immediate future any way - from what you are saying, present circumstances preclude that. So, if you are with your grandparents, you get to go to college, and yes, start accessing the help you need (counseling) and also just getting yourself on track with a college degree. While it is and may seem very important, remember that transition can be done in the future. I didn't start till I was 32, and am now 57. In the past, trans people often didn't start transition till their thirties. You may not have to wait that long, of course, if you decide to transition, but right now, you can't do it any way. Your other issues are far more pressing, and you want to have most of your life in a decent place before you transition any way. It is good to start transition when your life is in good order. So, I would live with grandparents, go to college, and yes - learn to drive! In time, you will be inspired to be more out of on your own, and with a degree, you will have the means. And, you will know how to drive! That's my take. You don't have an ideal situation or ideal choices, but people often don't. Your parents sound far too toxic and I think it would be better to be in a situation with people who were kinder to you. Also, going to college is a good idea any way.

Best of luck! I hope things work out. This bad situation is only temporary. Do take care-

[varanus]

I agree with everything here except the stating-with-the-grandparents thing. If the OP's parents are as toxic as he's stating, being around them will worsen depression, anxiety, and other problems, which makes academic success (necessary to leave this mess if we take this route) much more difficult. Take their financial support, yes. Don't worry about transition right now, yes. Go to college, absolutely. But if at all possible, see if you can get into somewhere far enough away that commuting is less possible (yes, that will be more expensive, but yes aid is usually available in some way).