Other ways to bind until i can get a binder

[mr_bsmooth]

I can't get a binder right know, School is getting ready to start Ive binded before with an ace bandage an it worked, But I take gym class and love sports so it moves is their anything else I can work with o be more comfortable like stuff around the house

Comments

[wuglet]

The other day someone posted a link to really cheap binders on ebay, and they look just like ordinary tanktops:

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/251245214760?var=550221098819&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT&_trksid=p3984.m1423.l2649

Perhaps a low-cost option?

[mr_bsmooth]

Yea but I can't order anything right know, I 'm under 18 and mom doesnt accept me, So it has to be something around the house

[ilanthefirst]

You can buy a pre-paid debit card at a grocery store and have it shipped to a friend's house. There are even cheaper ones. Another safe alternative to bandages is abdominal braces that you can find in most drugstores.

[mr_bsmooth]

Yea Ill see, But my mom pretty much figures out everything, So I guess Im kinda ass out

[gymx]

Dude you keep saying stuff like this. It's getting tiring you posting for help and every comment you get you respond with some variation on, "It won't work cuz my mom." People are trying to help you out here but it's up to you to work around your mom. Every kid hides stuff from their parents. If this is stuff you need to deal with your dysphoria and they're not gonna accept you or help you out, you gotta take some initiative and figure out how to be sneakier.

[mr_bsmooth]

Its not that its just I hate hiding stuff from my mom, It makes me more dysphoric, Its like me trying to go to prom and my friend says you can put your tux on over my house, Im gonna get dysphoric because I can' just walk out of the house with my girlfriend to go to prom and get pictures, Do you understand know

[gymx]

That does make sense, and I sympathize with trying to balance priorities, but I'm thinking you should consider treating it as two separate problems. There are some things you need to do for yourself to handle body dysphoria, and then there's stuff with your mom. If you don't have hope she'll accept you in the near-term, then it makes sense to focus on those other things that will make the rest of your life more liveable, even if it requires subterfuge.

[mr_bsmooth]

Ok then what do you suggest, Because school starts next tuesday, And I hate that I have breast

[gymx]

Who does support you? If you order stuff, have it delivered to their house. If there's stuff you wear every day that you're afraid your mom is gonna find, store it at their house and change there. Or keep stuff at school in your locker. Order stuff with a prepaid card or money order. Also look for hiding places in your own house for when other options aren't available. Know your mom's habits and work around them. For example, if she hugs you every day when she gets home, make sure you're out of your binder by the time you expect her.

[mr_bsmooth]

My cisgendered female friend accepts me, She's still trying to understand the whole transgender thing, And I let her read my poem about it and she is starting to get it, But I haven't talked to her about binding and packing, she's still trying to get me being male, But she's really nice about it, So I plan on talking to her about it, How do I get a money order or a prepaid visa card, FYI she is about to be 18 shes a senoir

[gymx]

Here's some card info:
http://usa.visa.com/personal/cards/prepaid/prepaid-card.html
http://usa.visa.com/personal/cards/prepaid/visa_gift_card.html

Money orders can be got at the post office or some grocery stores and drug stores.

[mr_bsmooth]

Can't I just get her to order it, Im pretty sure she has a bank account of some sort she already has her license to

[gymx]

Yeah, she could, so long as she agrees to it.

[mr_bsmooth]

Ok well I will talk to her about then