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Coming out help!
My girlfriend is going to have a trans conversation about me to her parents and I'm looking for suggestions or insight into it. They have met me once, loved me, and were hilariously disappointed when we broke up for a couple months and literally cheered when we got back together. They are small town (Newfies, for those in the know), conservative, Catholic, and anti-gay marriage. They are also super nice, funny, and care about their daughter and me very much. She was able to joke with them about how she should have a t-shirt that says "I know my BF is gay".
The reason we are telling them about my history is that my gf's Mom is traveling to Vancouver to see my gf dance in a show and since my Mum lives there they are going to meet and hang out. My Mum is completely supportive and wonderful but sometimes slips with pronouns. She was here visiting recently and accidentally told my gf my old name, which she didn't know. She also sometimes slips when telling stories of my childhood which she loves to do. I don't want her to be in a stressful position of worrying about screwing up. And we don't want everyone to be sitting at dinner and suddenly have to have a conversation then.
I'm also fine with them knowing because it will sure open up their eyes to new things! And they already love me, so we are not worried about rejection.
I don't know anything about the Catholic religion. Can anyone offer ideas about what they will be thinking coming from that background? They have been introduced to the idea of an FTM in a conversation my gf had about our pal Lucas. Her response was "Really? They do that?" Which was an improvement over a previous trans question of "what is this foolishness?"
We're nervous and don't know how to even begin the conversation. We feel confident that they will be accepting but want to be able to answer questions that may come up for them.
Thanks for any thoughts you may have.
My girlfriend is going to have a trans conversation about me to her parents and I'm looking for suggestions or insight into it. They have met me once, loved me, and were hilariously disappointed when we broke up for a couple months and literally cheered when we got back together. They are small town (Newfies, for those in the know), conservative, Catholic, and anti-gay marriage. They are also super nice, funny, and care about their daughter and me very much. She was able to joke with them about how she should have a t-shirt that says "I know my BF is gay".
The reason we are telling them about my history is that my gf's Mom is traveling to Vancouver to see my gf dance in a show and since my Mum lives there they are going to meet and hang out. My Mum is completely supportive and wonderful but sometimes slips with pronouns. She was here visiting recently and accidentally told my gf my old name, which she didn't know. She also sometimes slips when telling stories of my childhood which she loves to do. I don't want her to be in a stressful position of worrying about screwing up. And we don't want everyone to be sitting at dinner and suddenly have to have a conversation then.
I'm also fine with them knowing because it will sure open up their eyes to new things! And they already love me, so we are not worried about rejection.
I don't know anything about the Catholic religion. Can anyone offer ideas about what they will be thinking coming from that background? They have been introduced to the idea of an FTM in a conversation my gf had about our pal Lucas. Her response was "Really? They do that?" Which was an improvement over a previous trans question of "what is this foolishness?"
We're nervous and don't know how to even begin the conversation. We feel confident that they will be accepting but want to be able to answer questions that may come up for them.
Thanks for any thoughts you may have.