meeting a cousin/priest after 15 yrs

[feldspar_ghost]

i recently got back in touch with a cousin i haven't seen since i was teen, almost 15 yrs ago. i'm not sure how and when to come out to him. i don't know his opinion on queer subjects as its not something that's come up in casual letter exchanges. as we live far apart, we have only been in contact by writing, but he'll be in town later this year and suggested getting together. is it better to come out in letters, or in person? the only thing i've done so far is to sign letters by my male name- however, while most people not knowing my birth name would take it as a male name, those knowing my birth name might also take it as a nick-name only (like if your name was Josephine, and you go by Joe now). he did immediately take to the chosen name w/o question though.

also, he's a priest (fransician)- i know the vatican's/church's stance on queer issues, and that not everyone agrees with it; i have the impression the fransicians are more liberal, to what extent though, i'm not sure. as i'm not practicing, i'm not sure what questions someone from his background is most likely to ask that i should prepare for. any advice is much appreciated.