Hey all, just joined the community. I'm a pre surgery 23 ftm. I've been out to my friends for about 6months. Family doesnt know but will eventually
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Ace bandages are designed to continuously constrict throughout the day. Using a binder from Underworks or even a Neoprene wrap will allow you enough give to continue breathing, even if it's a little difficult. The fabric that they use will expand with your body so that you're not hurting your ribcage. Ace bandages will not do so and will really hurt you long-term and even short-term to an extent. Same with tape.
If you're short on funds and that's why you're looking for different methods of binding, I'd suggest looking through the list of communities that ftmichael just posted as the first entry in this community. There are a few different groups on LiveJournal that offer their used/less than new binders for cheaper prices than what you'd normally have to pay, and there are sites outside of LiveJournal that do so as well
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My buddy is actually taking anthropology, and one of his class's assignments was to do something socially unacceptable for a day. One male/female pair decided to go into the "wrong" bathroom. They just washed their hands, as this is a conservative school.
The female who went into the men's bathroom was a conservative LDS girl and very, very feminine -- she wound up being the most embarrassed person in the bathroom. The guys were just like, 'Hey.' No big deal.
The male, on the other hand... He's this big, tall guy. He goes into the women's bathroom, and it's empty except for the women who are in stalls. A woman comes out while he's washing his hand. She flips out -- "I'm going to call the police! What are you doing here!"
Point of the story is, men's bathrooms seem to be more lax than women's.
As far as I can tell, there are a couple of different types of tensor bandages, though Google has done little to help me out with differences between brands.
Some types keep getting tighter as your ribcage rises and falls, and this is the kind that most of the guys in this community are referring to. On the other hand, there are tensors that don't constrict when you wear them. This is the type I bound with part-time for eight months and full-time for a year with no problem other than occasional chafing.
If you have to live full time as a man for a year before you can do any surgery or t
According to the 6th edition of the Standards of Care, you do not have to "live full-time" for a year in order to be a candidate for hormone therapy. You may wish to anyway, but I thought I would bring it up.
when would you change your name?
I go by my desired name now, but I'm holding off on getting it legally changed until just after I go on T. I want as small a window as possible of that time where my voice will not match my legal name. It's a hang-up with me.
I think part of why people are not about ace bandages is because many of tried them in the dark ages and then had crappy experiences. I definitely could not deal with binding with ace bandages all the time, while underworks and even neoprene deals are much more bearable. Bandages in my experience also stretch out really fast and you have to get new ones after like 2 weeks. I really gotta say, binders are worth the investment. They are easier to put on and last longer and are more comfortable. Ace bandages, no matter what type, tend to cut into your skin a lot more
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I think ftms have a real advantage as far as name changes go. Practically every non-biblical girl's name today was once a man's name: Vivian, Beverly, Kimberly, Ashley, on and on.
Heh, definetly. And people seem much more likely to think of damn near any other reason why a person might have a gender atypical name, than to assume someone who appears male was raised as a girl.
I was talking about name changes with a co-worker who'd changes his name to avoid an abuse ex-step parent, and mentioned that my name used to be Kimberly. His reply: "Oh yea, a 'boy named Sue' thing, huh?". And this guy was not familiar with the "Boy Named Sue" documentary, he meant the Johnny Cash song.
Also helping the situation, my little (cisgender) brother's name is Mackenzie, an Irish girl's name.
With regards to the name thing, it depends more on personal preference and individual situation than anything else. Some people wait all the way until they change their gender marker to change their name.
I really think that a strongly male name can help you pass, but its by no means a guarantee. Another thing to think about...how long will court procedures take and cost in your state? Are you sure about the name you've picked out? Some people like to try them out for awhile before making them official. And it can be tough to live in stealth unless you have a fairly androgynous name, if that's something you'd like to do.
I haven't changed my name legally yet and I use the men's room. Never had any problems.
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If you're short on funds and that's why you're looking for different methods of binding, I'd suggest looking through the list of communities that ftmichael just posted as the first entry in this community. There are a few different groups on LiveJournal that offer their used/less than new binders for cheaper prices than what you'd normally have to pay, and there are sites outside of LiveJournal that do so as well ( ... )
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My buddy is actually taking anthropology, and one of his class's assignments was to do something socially unacceptable for a day. One male/female pair decided to go into the "wrong" bathroom. They just washed their hands, as this is a conservative school.
The female who went into the men's bathroom was a conservative LDS girl and very, very feminine -- she wound up being the most embarrassed person in the bathroom. The guys were just like, 'Hey.' No big deal.
The male, on the other hand... He's this big, tall guy. He goes into the women's bathroom, and it's empty except for the women who are in stalls. A woman comes out while he's washing his hand. She flips out -- "I'm going to call the police! What are you doing here!"
Point of the story is, men's bathrooms seem to be more lax than women's.
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Some types keep getting tighter as your ribcage rises and falls, and this is the kind that most of the guys in this community are referring to. On the other hand, there are tensors that don't constrict when you wear them. This is the type I bound with part-time for eight months and full-time for a year with no problem other than occasional chafing.
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According to the 6th edition of the Standards of Care, you do not have to "live full-time" for a year in order to be a candidate for hormone therapy. You may wish to anyway, but I thought I would bring it up.
when would you change your name?
I go by my desired name now, but I'm holding off on getting it legally changed until just after I go on T. I want as small a window as possible of that time where my voice will not match my legal name. It's a hang-up with me.
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Heh, definetly. And people seem much more likely to think of damn near any other reason why a person might have a gender atypical name, than to assume someone who appears male was raised as a girl.
I was talking about name changes with a co-worker who'd changes his name to avoid an abuse ex-step parent, and mentioned that my name used to be Kimberly. His reply: "Oh yea, a 'boy named Sue' thing, huh?". And this guy was not familiar with the "Boy Named Sue" documentary, he meant the Johnny Cash song.
Also helping the situation, my little (cisgender) brother's name is Mackenzie, an Irish girl's name.
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I really think that a strongly male name can help you pass, but its by no means a guarantee. Another thing to think about...how long will court procedures take and cost in your state? Are you sure about the name you've picked out? Some people like to try them out for awhile before making them official. And it can be tough to live in stealth unless you have a fairly androgynous name, if that's something you'd like to do.
I haven't changed my name legally yet and I use the men's room. Never had any problems.
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