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[frog_on_my_toe]

shannon and i are having an argument.. well, not exactly an argument, we're just both angry at one another and i have no idea why.. she didn't do anything to make me angry and i don't think i did anything to her either, but we're both giving one another the silent treatment.. because we're immature like that.. 6th grade up in this bitch

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[lovelark]

marion and I have really pathetically dumb fights. We get all stupid mad, and we try to be intelligent about it. really it just sort of degrades into senseless "no I'm right" "No I'm right". The only way to solve it, really, is for someone to do something sufficiently dramatic, so the other person has an opening to rush in and save the day. Like, for example, I told him not too long ago that he could go fuck himself...which is pretty hefty stuff, so, he got angry, slammed the door, and left, I dissolved into tears and worry, imagined him driving angry, slamming into an SUV and dying in a pandemonium of twisted steel and fire. So I sent him a text message not to drive stupid, he sent me a tex back not to pretend I care, he came home 20 minutes later, and I kissed him on the forehead.
we had make-up sex within a half an hour.

example 2: the other night we started fighting over who respects the other's time more (don't ask how it started it was really stupid...we were watching the movie "Brazil" ) and uh...it got so long and pointless and angry and frustrating I said "dammit...fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, you suck" and starte crying really hard. (marion has expressed to me several times that nothing hurts or offends him more than when I swear at him during fights...you see, his family NEVER swore at eachother during arguments...they barely even raised their voices...mine on the other hand...we were more passionate)
after the string of profanity from me, Marion got the hint that no amount of
"rational" argument was likely to solve it at this point, sighed, said "point taken..." and we were ok in 5 minutes.

sometimes the cycle just needs to be broken.
I don't know. it might be worth a try. I HATE fighting.

[frog_on_my_toe]

that's exactly what we do.. stupid little arguments that, for me at least, i forget what we're actually arguing about within 3 minutes and then i'm just mad about everything.. when she gets angry, she lays in bed facing the wall and throws the covers over her head.. when i'm the one trying to resolve it with her, i go snuggle her and make exaggerated kissy noises on the blanket.. once she forgives me, she'll peek at me from under the covers, i'll rip them off, we'll kiss and then have make-up sex..
when i'm mad, i get in the shower, sit in the middle of the floor and let the water run all over me while i cry.. so gay, but it really helps me calm down.. and then she gets in with me and washes my hair and then we're made up and not much is better than shower sex, in my opinion..

you and marion are so fucking cute.. i think you're my favorite couple ever..

shannon feels the same way as marion about swearing, but it's the opposite, she doesn't like it because her family ALWAYS swore at one another.. and now that i think about it, i can see where it would feel disrespectful.. i'm thankful that we haven't yelled at one another in months.. it's always just angry silence until we calm down and then we talk.. which makes me feel really good about our relationship..

i'm writing a novel here.. sorry..